If you are dating someone for many years and there is no talk of love, you can be pretty sure that it is not there and never will be. Lots of people date for years and think there is something to their relationship, but without the proper communication they don’t find out until it is too late that there was nothing every there.
After about the first couple months two people should pretty much know if they like each other and want to move it to the next level. If they don’t they are usually just having fun or don’t know what they want at all.
You can waste a lot of time getting to know someone for many years thinking that they care and they really don’t. A good way to avoid that relationship to have discussions about where the relationship is heading on a regular basis. Ask pertinent questions, be honest with what you are looking for and make the other person communicate what they want.
There will be cases when you will get burned. In those instances, you will be mad and you must move on. The next time you enter a relationship do not let the same things happen. Watch for the same signs and stop it immediately, in most cases that means getting out of it. You are always in control of whether you want to see someone any longer.
If they have wasted your time for several years, just don’t let it happen anymore and don’t get into another relationship that resembles it in any way. You will save yourself a lot of pain and grief.
One sign you will need to look for is immaturity. If the person has this trait you will want to run the other way or you will be wasting your time with them. Immaturity has no idea of age and there are plenty of older people that are unable to grow up. Don’t fall for it and move on and find someone that is normal. There is no way that you can help them to grow up, either they have or they have not. No amount of caring about them will change that one fact.
Everyone deserves someone who cares about their welfare and offers a decent and sustainable relationship. It should move along to what you expect and if it does not you should say goodbye. In most cases you will not want to remain friends because there wasn’t a friendship in the first place. They can’t engage in a relationship and never will be able to and friendship will just drag it out a lot longer. It doesn’t make sense. The only sensible thing is to find someone a lot better and have a great time.
Be sure that you are clear of what you want in a relationship and when you think things should become serious. Stick to your timetable and you will find someone that will be just the right one for you.