Keeping New Year’s Resolutions is not that easy. They are pretty much a distant memory after January 31st and by mid-year they are all but forgotten. If you are like me, then being a better parent is typically at the top of the list. But how do we improve our parenting? What does being a “better parent” look like? Well, I for one have come up with my Top 5 New Year’s Parenting Resolutions by creating an acronym so I can remember all year long! L.A.U.G.H.
I always try to tell my kids how much I love them but this coming year I resolve to tell my kids “I love you” at least once a day – and especially if I get upset with them. It’s always nice to hear those three special words for no particular reason. And it’s so very reassuring to hear them even when a mistake has been made.
I am guilty. I don’t always acknowledge the effort that has been made on my 5-year old’s part to behave during dinner time or when he gets dressed on his own. This year I resolve to be more conscientious of his efforts and reward him with the praise he deserves.
Looking at life from a child’s eyes changes the way the world appears. I want to remember that my kids are little people trying to navigate their way in a very grown up world. When my kids misbehave, it’s probably not because they are trying to be defiant, it’s probably because they feel overwhelmed by how small and insignificant they feel in such a big world. I want to make sure I understand their point of view before I lose my cool.
Of course! Giggling is not only fun but it feels good too! Laughter can keep a person young at heart and smooth over some otherwise upsetting situations. Instead of cringing when my toddler squeezes and smears banana everywhere I resolve to smile and giggle. After all, it is fun to make a mess!
I love to hug! Hugging can say “I love you,” “You did it!,” “I’m sorry” or “I understand” without any words. Just the physical contact of a strong embrace can energize even the gloomiest of spirits. I will definitely make it a point to hug my kids everyday – even for no reason at all!
I could read books to no end in my attempts to be a better parent but I think I’ll try my LAUGH method this year. Sometimes the simplest things in life are the most significant.