We all have haters! No matter how popular, or how laid back, how rich or how poor, how sexy or how not-so-sexy. There is someone in this world who has been designated to be your official/unofficial hater of everything that is you. It should make you feel extremely blessed to have someone who utilizes their time to find ways to remind you that you are doing something that affects them. I was always taught that if you don’t have at least one hater you are not doing something right.
The UrbanDictionary.com defines a Hater as the following:
“One who either verbally and/or physically inhibits another individual’s
Here are the top 5 reasons you have Haters
You are attractive and you know it
Not too many people have the confidence that you have. You may wear your clothes just right or accentuate your assets without being too overly pressed about impressing others, but either way people are affected by it. If you walk around like you know you are special because God doesn’t make any junk, chances are you are attracting some haters. Haters expect you to be decent looking, but not display any acts of confidence (or swag). Go ahead with your sexy self!
You are an attention magnet
Attractive or not, people tend to flock to the sound of your voice or just want to be around you. You may make people laugh, make people think, or some folks may just feel more comfortable in your presence, you just attract a crowd wherever you go. These qualities tend to upset most haters, because they envy the fact that you know how to attract more bees to your honey than they can with their vinegar. Love the stage doll face while you still have some light to shine.
You are ambitious and driven
Haters despise being reminded of all the things they can’t do or haven’t done. When you surround yourself with people who allow fear, excuses, and other people’s opinions to determine their next move, please believe you surrounded yourself with haters. They are the main ones who tell you that whatever great idea you have isn’t going to work, they secretly wish negative things to happen to you when things seem to be looking up, and they also always point out a flaw or two whenever the mood strikes. Don’t worry, you will need these people. The more irritating they get, the better you are doing. Just don’t dwell too much on their opinions, keep your business to yourself, and don’t allow their unconstructive behavior to determine your next move. Deal with your haters with caution, and when they cross the line – then cross them out. It’s better to be happy than a hater’s target all your life.
You recognize that being “Fake” is not an option
You see your haters everyday and still speak. You laugh and joke with everyone, you know how to keep your business to yourself, and you don’t care what people think. Your haters understand how to get under your skin, but you never allow the relationship to get to that point. This upsets them. You don’t fraternize with identified haters, this will only allow them to gain more knowledge about your personal life in order to gain leverage to stop your flow. You keep your haters at a distance, which frustrates them more. This strategy makes it hard for them to hate on you. Do you ever see really successful celebrities (not looking for current exposure) doing interviews with people that have been known to mock them consistently? No, unless they want the ratings and gossip columns talking about them – they stay far away from the shade. Haters don’t want you to have positive spotlight, so they try to lure you into pretend friendships in order to gain confidential information. Haters want to prove that you aren’t as wonderful as you seem to be. Don’t entertain the craziness. Keep your distance from them and don’t allow confrontation. Arguing with a hater only gives them just as much exposure and recognition as you. Also, when you argue with a hater – no one will know who is who.
You are blessed
You are getting the job you wanted, you have the house many could only dream about, driving the car that is beyond most people’s salary range, yet you’re still humble. Haters see the blessings coming from a mile away and their main goal is to get you to slip up and lose it all. Haters see you dressed well, taking care of yourself, and giving praises and credit to a Higher Power and they are angry. Blessings are favors and miracles coming from The Most High and given to anyone who recognizes that. Haters may pray, but if their heart isn’t in it then it goes absolutely no where. Haters wonder why you are so blessed and they aren’t, so they test you to see if you are somehow more favored than them. Don’t allow that to affect you. Keep prayer and encouraging words in your heart and block out the negative words. Do understand that there are some praying haters, some religious haters, and some conservative haters. They come in all shapes and sizes, colors and creeds, and all background. Never allow someone’s position to determine whether a person is out to hate on you. Most of the time, the people who hate shouldn’t have to in the first place. Recognize that with all your wonderful glory, who the glory really should be given to. God and Jesus blessed you, and even they have haters.
This list should assist in making you feel empowered about your abilities to do whatever you love to do, be a people person, be sexy, and be real without having to worry about recognizing your haters. Give thanks to the few or many haters you have because you are obviously on your way to some sort of greatness. Keep doing what your doing and boost the number of haters up, everyday game or mode of operation primarily due to jealousy, envy, animosity, bitterness, resentment, and contempt. A hater will exhibit either one or all of the aforementioned traits. A hater will usually smile in your face and hate behind your back.