1. “If you were a bridesmaid or groomsman in someone’s wedding, you have to ask that person to be in your wedding party.” Not true, thank heavens! If you’re the kind of person who gets asked to be in weddings all the time, don’t worry. That doesn’t mean you’re destined to have twenty wedding attendants. The same goes for that wedding you were in eight years ago, for the friend that you now only talk to on Facebook once or twice a year. Just because you stood up with someone on their wedding day, you aren’t locked into a contract with them. Although we would like to think that our wedding party is made up of our most loving and supportive friends, for many people at least some of those friends are transitional thanks to the way life changes after high school, college, job changes, location changes, etc. In fact, if you were to include that long-lost friend you never speak to, you may be putting them in an awkward position of needing to bow out because they don’t want to make the commitment.
2. “The bride and groom can’t see each other before the ceremony.” Although many couples still follow this tradition, it’s not a rule set in stone and lots of modern couples are choosing to throw it out the window. Not seeing each other before the ceremony may be a romantic way to build up excitement, but it’s also impractical and inconvenient for many people, particularly if you’re living together or sharing a hotel room. You’ll be pretty stressed out on the morning of your wedding and if your fiancé is the one person on Earth who always makes you feel better, guess who you’re going to want to see. Plus, spending time together in the morning may mean that you can get some of the standard posed photos out of the way so your guests aren’t waiting around while you take them between the ceremony and the reception. Your hair and makeup will be freshest in the morning, so why not seize the opportunity?
3. “The bride wears white.” Often, the bride does wear white…or cream or eggshell or something else in the white family. However, you aren’t locked into this color scheme. Gwen Stefani made bridal magazines around the world when she wore a pink edged wedding gown down the aisle and wedding boutiques are starting to cater to women who feel more comfortable wearing silver, gold, pink, blue, or even red dresses on their wedding day. As long as you feel beautiful, feel free to ignore those big white dresses!
4. “You have to serve a wedding cake.” If you’re having dinner at your wedding reception, it’s a good idea to provide dessert as well. However, you don’t have to have a wedding cake if that’s not your thing (how often do they taste good anyway?). You could do wedding cupcakes, a wedding ice cream bar, or maybe even wedding cotton candy and fresh donuts if that suits your fancy. You could also go the comfort food route and serve warm chocolate chip cookies with milk or maybe a variety of milkshakes in cute glasses as a dance floor pick-me-up. Sweets are sweets, no matter the shape on your wedding day!
5. “The wedding night is the most romantic night of your life.” Your wedding may be the most romantic thing that’s ever happened to you, but if you’re gearing up for your wedding night, you may be in for a surprise. Post-wedding, most couples just don’t have the energy to keep up the celebration once it’s just the two of them. Be prepared for a whole lot of sleeping!