Getting to understand the mind of a woman is a daunting task for any man. Many have tried to address the needs of a woman but tend to ignore some basics, which eventually strain their relationships. There are a number of things every woman needs from her man, but I believe almost all of them are summed up in these two most basic needs for a relationship to survive. However, as much as men need to understand these basic needs, every woman must understand that obstacles are certain and her man might occasionally get frustrated, while trying to meet these needs.
The first most basic need of every woman is security. Many have misunderstood the challenges of meeting security needs. However, I will elaborate further what security means to every woman. In these modern times, security has become a more obscured term, to both men and women. The world has become more materialistic than spiritual, as more emphasis is laid in pursuit of the material world with incline to individualism. As a result, many have reached the conclusion that they don’t need the other for existence, only to end up scrambling late in life. Security in a relationship is beyond the promise of being faithful. It includes emotional, spiritual, psychological and physical as well. You might be unemployed but your vision and objectives in life are promising, and of course backed up by the steps you are taking to attain sustainability. This is security to any woman desiring to settle in life, and will increase her hopes on you. Security is also defined in terms of the level of confidence a man displays. No woman will bank her whole life on a flip flopper. A man is the head of his household, irrespective of how much income his wife/girlfriend is making. The ability to make tough decision when the need arises, and the ability to follow through with it, is also a strong show of security in any man. Failure to step up when required is a red flag, that you are unreliable and undependable. A strong man will display strong faith by being prayerful, optimistic and being proactive, as well as taking risks when necessary. A woman will feel secure with a man who measures his risks and takes them, not only for his own good but for the good of his family. Dependence on God is usually a good start to a successful relationship
The second most basic need is the ability to trust her man. By being trustworthy, I am referring to the ability of your woman to believe in you, take your word without the need for evidence. It means that you need to back your words with your actions, and not for a while but for the long haul. A woman needs to trust that you will appreciate her. Most men will say to their wives, “I love you” but fail to know how to appreciate her. To get a woman to trust you, take time to know her, a task that never ends. Find out how she wants to be handled, and let her feel it. Do not be ashamed to share your emotional touch, let her know that she is beautiful, lovely and sexy. Never attempt to use a mechanical approach in your romance, for that will kill her feminism. Lastly, a woman needs a man whom they can respect. One of the building blocks of any beneficial relationship is respect. If a woman stops trusting her man, it may end up killing their relationship. Though it can be difficult, if you really love your woman, you need to “be the man” and tell her plainly that you expect her to treat you with respect.
Understanding these two basic needs, can save you a lot of headache later in your relationship, and will earn you respect and adoration from your woman. However, it is important to ensure that you define yourself first. Build in yourself the qualities you desire before you think of getting into a relationship. The cost of insecurity is too much to bear, in most cases; it results in divorce or relationship gone wrong, as well as depression, not ruling out the possibility of a suicide. Get to know your wife if you’re married or your girlfriend if not married. It’s a lifelong task that you need to take.