Envision this scenario. You and your man are driving on a main highway, it is late at night. He sees a car stranded on the side of the road, next to it a small figured woman trying to look under the hood. She looks completely lost. Without thinking he slams on the brakes and pulls the car into reverse. Then jumps out his door like superman and proceeds to help the woman fix her car. You sit there for two hours and no one says a word to you. Does this sound like your guy? What happened here tonight? A good ego stroking is what happened.
Men are completely ego-driven beings. They need to be needed and succeed. They need you to tell them how great they are and avoid getting into pissing contests with them. It’s funny how many women have the same story. When they first met their man he was so interested in them and now everything is a fight. Well, what changed. When did he start viewing you as a threat and not a girlfriend? The real question is when did your life start to trump his?
Maybe you secured a better job and now you make more money than him. This is a no-no in the man’s world. It makes him feel controlled and inferior. This ego-driven beast wants to be the top wage earner, he wants to tell people all that he has done for you, he needs that pat on the back. It is at such a subconscious level that some men will unintentionally throw a wrench into their partners plans and screw up that new job. Again rendering you under his control, and ever so grateful for his support.
Avoid competition wit this selfish breed. Be aware they are out to win, and you are going to lose. It’s already been decided. If by some small chance you do win be prepared to hear about it for a long time to come. What you actually did by winning was damage his ego and self-esteem, this eventually will damage the relationship you share with this prehistoric beast. He will also be more apt to play harder next time, because now you have left the woman’s world and entered their world. You are now competition, and if you don’t turn this around soon the fight will never end. These men are looking for the fair princess that they can perform for, not an opponent they need to slay.
It’s strange, most women, want to be helpful in the relationship and offer financial assistance thinking this will soften their man, and make him grateful. They are usually not prepared for the opposite to happen.
The key to holding on to one of these special pets is to render yourself helpless and in need. Sounds really great, doesn’t it. If you actually do succeed in anything you will not be able to share it with him, and your whole relationship will be centered around his happiness. Or you can get out of that pre-dated, funtastic nightmare and look for a “Today”s Man,” you know, the kind that has researched his inner self. The one that can share and support his partners happiness.