I Cor. 7:15
All Scripture quotes were from The King James Bible unless otherwise noted.
This is one of the harder verses of scripture to offer a solid non sinful solution in counseling. There is a word contained in this verse that if the proper meaning is not understood could cause a dangerous lifelong sinful situation to develop. I have looked at and shown this verse below from 3 popular Bible translations. All three use the same word or a form of it. The word is bondage/bound
King James Bible
“But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such [cases]: but God hath called us to peace.”
New International Version
“But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace“
New American Standard Bible “Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother
or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace“.
I will start by offering an acceptable definition of this word.
The secular definition is; “The state of being under the control of a force or another person” ( Wordweb Dictionary) In Scripture it is used in two senses. Literal in The Old Testament and metaphorically(Expressing one thing in terms normally denoting another) in The New Testament. The Greek root is (douloo (enslaved) (Strong’s Greek/Hebrew Dictionary).
“not under bondage” – Many have supposed that this means that the remaining spouse would be at liberty to marry again at will when the unbelieving or rebellious wife or husband had gone away;
Calvin, Grotius, Rosenmuller and others but this is contrary to the strain of the argument of the Apostle Paul. He is only saying that if one spouse forcibly departs, the one that is left is not bound by the marriage law to make provision for the one that departed and is at liberty to live separately. Paul makes a statement in vs. 39 that only death opens the door for remarriage and it must be to another believer. Jesus said that fornication/adultery was ground for divorce but He did not address the remarriage of the offended spouse. This is one of those paradoxes of Scripture that we face. I must admit that I don’t know the absolute answer if there is one. If you are the victim in one of these unfortunate situations and want to remain pleasing to God. You must sincerely give it to Him in prayer and patiently wait for His answer (Prov. 3:6) before you do anything other than stay as you are. The Bible gives the offended spouse a right to divorce and the deserted spouse the right to be separate but I find nothing authorizing remarriage without death and not be entering into sin. God hath called us to peace – Christianity is peaceful. It should prevent contentions and brawls and it will if you allow The Holy Spirit to rule your life. This is to be the grand principle. “If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.” (Rom. 12:18) If it cannot be obtained by living together, there should be a peaceful separation; and where such a separation has taken place, the one which has departed should be allowed to remain separate in peace. God has called us to live in peace with all if we can. As quoted earlier. This is the foundational principle of Christianity on which we are always to act. In our relation to our partners in life, as well as in all other relations and circumstances, this is to guide us. God has called us to a life of peace. Most states allow remarriage after a specified period of desertion has passed and for sexual infidelity.
Caution: God’s ways are Not man’s ways.
Divorce, Remarriage and Adultery are NOT unforgivable sins. Forgiveness of all sins is available through faith in Jesus Chris( I Jn.1:9). In order to be in good fellowship with God we must confess and forsake All sin (Prov.28:13 ) “He that covereth his sins shall not prosper: but whoso confesseth and forsaketh them shall have mercy and ( Rom. 5:20-6:2) “Moreover the law entered, that the offence might abound. But where sin abounded, grace did much more abound:
That as sin hath reigned unto death, even so might grace reign through righteousness unto eternal life by Jesus Christ our Lord.
What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound?
God forbid. How shall we, that are dead to sin, live any longer therein?”
God made it clear in (Malachi 2:16) that He hates divorce. In an unfortunate circumstance when it does happen you must accept the fact that God may want you to remain single that you can better serve Him with one less distraction.
The Bible explicitly says that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16), but nowhere does it explicitly states that God hates remarriage.
Only the act of getting remarried is adultery.(Luke 16:18)
I don’t believe that God views the new marriage as invalid or adulterous.
This is the first time that I have written on a biblical subject that I could not come to a definite no other way conclusion that was Biblical without question.
I have given you what The Bible has said. Again I refer you to (Prov. 3:6) which says; “In all thy ways acknowledge him and he shall direct thy paths“