A Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD) diagnosis can come as a shock and can be difficult to accept. But as you prepare to get married, how should you tell your future spouse that you have an STD?
Rehearse What to Say
It is never easy disclosing difficult news such as an STD diagnosis. If you are not well prepared, you may not present the news in the way in which you had intended. That is why it is worthwhile rehearsing what you will say before you let your future spouse know about your STD diagnosis.
According to Laurie Davis, an online dating expert based in New York and Boston, it is worth using a friend as a sounding board to find out what sounds most intimidating about your condition and then asking for their advice on how to disclose the news. As you rehearse what you will tell your future spouse, try not to provide so much information that you overwhelm them with your diagnosis. Include all the important facts such as treatment options, how your diagnosis will impact your sexual relationship in marriage and steps you will need to take to stay safe.
Give Your Partner Some Space
After you have disclosed your STD diagnosis to your partner, you may need to give them time alone to digest the information. Unless you contracted the STD during your current relationship, you should not have to worry about your partner calling off the wedding. But they may still need time to come to terms with your STD diagnosis. Try not to take it too personally if your partner wishes to have a little time alone to think over the information you have given them.
Giving your partner some breathing space is a mark of respect and shows them that you do not expect them to automatically accept what they have had to say. This will also show your partner that you are being honest and upfront with them, rather than trying to keep the STD diagnosis a secret.
Couples who plan to marry should not keep secrets from one another, especially if the secret is of a physically or emotionally harmful manner. Spend time rehearsing what you will say, perhaps even using a trusted friend as a sounding board, as you work out what to say for the best. Once you have delivered the information, give your partner some space to digest what you have said.
Shine from Yahoo! 8 tips for telling your partner a health secret, by Marti Trgovich.