Have you recently met a great guy, only to find that you can’t stand his best friend? This can be a very complicated situation. In some cases, disliking your boyfriend’s best friend can even lead to a breakup. How do you handle this situation? Do you tell your boyfriend that you hate his best friend? Here are some tips on what to do if you hate your boyfriend’s best friend.
1. Determine why you hate your boyfriend’s best friend.
Is it because his best friend is really a bad person, or is it because your boyfriend acts differently when they are together? Figuring out why you hate your boyfriend’s best friend is very important. If possible, try to give your boyfriend’s best friend another chance.
2. Talk to your boyfriend if his own faults are to blame.
If your boyfriend acts different when he is around his best friend, it’s important to let him know that you feel this way. Explain that he is making you not like his friend, when it’s really not his friends fault. Also, if your boyfriend talks negatively about his best friend, remind him that this will impact your own feelings about his friend.
3. Talk out any problems if necessary.
If your boyfriend’s best friend is not on your good side because he said something to offend you, it’s ideal to let it be known. The best thing that you can do is let your boyfriend know, so that he can tell his best friend why you’re upset. If you’re afraid of it coming between them, however, you may want to consider telling him yourself.
4. Try to distance yourself from your boyfriend’s best friend – but not too much.
It is ideal to suggest that your boyfriend and his best friend have “man” time (assuming that his best friend is a guy). During this time, concentrate on things that you need to do or consider arranging a girl’s night. However, it is important to keep in mind that if you dodge your boyfriend’s best friend too often, he will begin to realize that you don’t like him.
5. Decide if the relationship is worth it.
If you really hate your boyfriend’s best friend, it’s important to consider what role he will play in your relationship. Depending on the situation, it may be ideal to reevaluate your relationship. If your boyfriend’s friend is only going to want to spend time with him occasionally, it may be one thing – but if he is going to be the brotherly type who plans to camp out on your couch most nights and your boyfriend always takes his side, it might put a strain on your relationship and may be worth considering a breakup.
Getting along with a boyfriend’s best friend can be challenging, but in most cases it can be done. Just remember that if you try to give your boyfriend an ultimatum in which he chooses between his best friend and you, it is likely that you will end up with a broken heart.