First off, I am a 19 year old college student. Although my aspirations and the methods I use to reach my dreams are very good, my social life away from school can get pretty crazy. Some parents are ignorant, and some parents decide that their child is just going through a faze. Both of these parental positions are not good in your young adults development. While being lenient with your college student will ensure a happy relationship between both of you, you need to remember that you are this persons parent. Not their friend. Having fun in college is all fine and dandy, but it sometimes leads to alcoholism, drug addictions, and teen suicide. You must be careful.
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but when your teenager tells you they’re going out with some friends and that they’ll be back in the morning, this means something entirely different from what you may take it as. First, plans are made and everyone gathers at a “flop house.” A place where teenagers can gather and partake in illegal actions without being caught. At this flop house, the teens then begin doing something called “pre-gaming.” This is when the substance abuse begins so that the teens can arrive at their final destination already intoxicated. The average pre-gaming substance abuse is comprised of quick and heavy consumptions of alcohol, as well as the onset of marijuana smoking. Once nightfall arrives, the group of teenagers are feeling nice and decide to embark on their adventures of the night. Of course the driver is completely annihilated. No seatbelts and loud music play into the danger of the situation.
For a lot of teens, inner city dance clubs are the recreational past time of choice. These clubs are the place of many murders and abductions in most cities. Upon arrival at these clubs, teens usually ingest ecstasy pills which have a high concentration of MDMA. MDMA drains your spinal fluid and can cause brain damage and death, even if it’s that persons first time using. At this point, our group of teenagers are messed up beyond their own comprehension, and this is when they decide they would like to have sex before the night is over. Basically, the whole point of going to a club is to find someone attractive while you’re messed up, and to have sex with them. Many STDS such as herpes and HIV are imminent in a lot of these clubs.
As the club closes at around 2 a.m, hundreds of drunken teens litter the streets. If your child makes it out of this massive collaboration without conflict, he or she is very lucky. From here, the group brings their “lover for the night” back to the original “flop house” where they partake in unprotected sex with a stranger. When exhaustion has set in and their developing bodies have reached the brink of total exertion, they black out drunk and possibly never wake up in the morning.
This is just one scenario. There are hundreds of these scenarios, and the dance club setting is one of many. These activities can lead to early pregnancy, rape, murder, drunk driving accidents, abduction, substance addiction, and even contracting a deadly STD. Again, I am 19 years old and I am a first hand witness. Don’t think your little angel is having an honest sleepover at a friend’s house. Wake up people.