While men and women are truly different animals, there are some similarities between us. Infidelity has been an issue throughout time. While each situation is unique, there are some commonalities among men and women in terms of reasons for committing adultery.
Why do women cheat? Well, just like men, there are a variety of reasons. Men may think that women are delicate souls that would never do such a thing. They would be incorrect.
Society seems to place more of an emphasis and focus on male infidelity. This stems from the long-standing belief that women are interested in sex for emotional reasons, and not as much for physical ones. A study was done by Michael Wiederman, Ph.D, published in “The Journal of Sex Research” that indicated that women are most likely to cheat between the ages of 30 and 50.
So, why do women cheat?
Men aren’t the only ones that sometimes feel that monogamy equals monotony after a while. This is particularly common for women that have been married for quite some time. She’s bored and wants some excitement. This makes sense especially for women that don’t work outside the home. Being a stay at home mother can be satisfying and full of variety. However, the daily monotony of housework, cooking and cleaning can get boring quite fast without something else to balance it out.
Women also cheat due to resentment. Men may not understand this. One thing that can make a woman satisfied in her relationship is a man that pulls his weight in the household. Having an affair may make her feel as though she has an escape from the relationship. If she does the bulk of the chores around the house without much help, she could be feeling resentful towards her husband.
Women cheat because they like sex. Even if she has an active sex life, she may crave a different partner or different experiences. This is not unlike men. After being married for a while, sex can get stagnant. Also, she may have specific fantasies that she doesn’t feel comfortable exploring with her spouse, for whatever reason.
Women cheat because they are bored. They have affairs because they are seeking excitement. Even if a woman wants to be married, she may miss the feeling of being pursued. Some women cheat just for the excitement of getting caught.
Women cheat to get back at cheating husbands. Whether an emotional or physical affair, a woman may want to get back at her man. She may feel like it’s the only way she can stay in the marriage, to make things even.
Whatever the reason, infidelity is damaging and painful. Understanding some of the reasons why women cheat can give you some insight as to how to avoid it. Don’t take that to mean that the person that is cheated on is at fault. It’s just to consider that there are some behaviors that strengthen a marriage, and others that weaken them. Monogamy can be difficult, for men and women.