Daily life is rough on marriage. You might be dealing with problems at work, money shortages, misbehaving kids, a vindictive homeowner’s association president, and a car that only starts when it feels like it'”and maybe all at the same time. This is why married couples need to take vacations.
Otherwise, it’s too easy to forget why you got married in the first place.
According to iParenting, it’s sometimes difficult for married couples to convince themselves they need and desire a vacation. They worry about leaving the kids with someone else; they worry about how to fund the trip. But vacations don’t have to be long or expensive to work their magic.
Focusing on Each Other
Marriages sometimes fall apart because married couples focus on everything but each other. They are wrapped up in work and kids and managing the household, and intimacy'”both physical and emotional'”flies out the proverbial window.
A vacation gives married couples a chance to rediscover one another. With the pressures of daily life removed, you can enjoy one another’s company and strip walls down to the foundation on which you originally built your lives. It’s still there, even if it’s covered up by all the problems and obstacles life has thrown at you.
Do you and your spouse ever talk about your first date? Your wedding day? The birth of your children? Of course you do. This is because, when times get rough, we take comfort in remembering the past and we look back on our favorite memories to restore our sense of wonder and excitement.
Vacations for married couples are opportunities to build new memories. When you get back home to your uptight boss and your kids’ crazy schedules, you can talk about the beach or the mountains or the relaxing hotel pool, and you’ll feel centered again. Vacations can continue to revive married couples long after they are over.
How to Enjoy Your Vacation
Vacations aren’t automatically restorative for married couples. If you allow yourself to bring heavier baggage than your favorite swim trunks and the novel you’ve been dying to read, you might not enjoy your vacation at all.
Commit to having fun, enjoying each other, and making the most of your time on vacation. Married couples will have a much better time if they are both excited about the time away and invested in the benefits of the trip.
And finally, plan your trip with each of your interests in mind. See something you like one day, something your spouse likes the next, and spend the following day with no agenda at all. Don’t try to pack as many adventures into your itinerary as possible, but be open to experiencing your destination as it unfolds before you.