Stephen Fry, an actor and comedian, recently made controversial comments about sex. According to Newser, Fry made remarks implying “women were not as interested in sex as men and women only have sex with men in order to have a relationship” in an interview with Attitude magazine. Fry’s remarks have created quite a controversy.
Despite his insistence his words were meant to be humorous, he is receiving a lot of criticism. Stephen Fry may even delete his Twitter account due to the response from his comments.
Is Fry right? Do women not enjoy sex the same way men do?
Women may engage in sex for a multitude of reasons, but according to a study discussed in Newsweek, one of the main reasons is pleasure. In the past, a main theory of women’s interest in sex was believed to be for the emotional commitment and not for gratification. Perhaps, in history, it was considered inappropriate for women to share their enjoyment in sex. Now, as gender walls continue to break down, women are able to express that they do engage in sexual activities for pleasure and enjoy it in similar ways to men.
Brain research discussed on CNN.com shows that the male brain has a larger area devoted to sexual pursuit than a woman’s brain. Men also produce more testosterone, a hormone that plays an important role in sexual desire, than women. Differences between male and female brains exist when it comes to sex.
Do women only engage in sex to maintain relationships? I don’t think so. Any broad description of men and women is easy to pick apart. The differences from one man to another can vary as much as the differences between a man and a woman. A female or male’s goals in sexual activities are no different. I do not believe the vast majority of women participate in sexual activity to maintain a relationship.
I also believe interest in sex varies widely between all people regardless of gender. Some men may be more interested in sex compared to some women, and in other cases, some women may be more interested in sex than some men. The desire for engaging in sex is not “set” for an entire gender.
As Stephen Fry does not engage in sexual activity with women, his beliefs on the sexual motivations of women carry little weight. Fry’s comments were made in jest. I do not believe he actually agrees with the statements or meant to be prejudicial toward women. His interview just didn’t turn out to be funny.