Previously published in Examiner
part 4 of the Women who do too much series
Often time when women do what they love to do and that is to help people, they do lose focus and they do not realize the amount of time spent on serving others and not serving their own needs.
Women continue to do these things because they are good little girls and they do what they are told, they do what people ask of them and they neglect their own mental and physical health in the process.
How to know when you are doing too much
If you are a person who has trouble saying no, watch out for these signs and if you experience at least two or three of them, you will need to slow down and take a few moments for yourself. You also need to sometimes say no.
Here are some warning signs:
You are always feeling tired
You are always stressed
You never seem to have a moment’s rest
You find yourself going out, but wishing you had the evening to yourself to take a hot bath, watch TV, or just have a good time with your family
Your house is a disaster
When you are at home you don’t even want to get out of bed
You never seem to have the time to do the things you want like gardening, painting, reading a good book, or even taking the dog out for a walk
You feel guilty when somebody asks something from you and deep down inside you know your really don’t want to do it
You don’t want to do something for somebody, but you do it anyhow
You feel like a failure when you can’t do everything that people ask you to do for them
to be continued
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