Are you addicted to being pregnant? Studies show that women who love being pregnant may actually be addicted to it, and are often referred to as “bumpaholics”. There is medical and psychological evidence that craving the baby bump and pregnancy in general may be more than just having a joy of children- being pregnant may be a chemical addiction to some women.
A “bumpaholic” is essentially a woman who just loves being pregnant to the point of obsession. Bumpaholics crave the needed attention of getting their bellies rubbed, being pampered, and feeling life grow within them. They crave the feeling of being needed to carry life, and tend to feel “empty” when they are not carrying a child within them. Why are so many women “bumpaholics”? And are YOU one?
According to Women’sHealth, being pregnant for some women is as much an addiction as drugs or alcohol to others. “Women who are obsessed with being pregnant are literally filling an emptiness inside of them, just as alcoholics and drug addicts use substances to fill a psychological void,” claims Beverly Hills psychiatrist Carole Lieberman, M.D. Says New York family therapist Bonnie Eaker Weil, Ph.D, ” You want to have a purpose in this world. You want to feel less lonely.” She also claims that “Bumpaholics breed to blot out their feelings of anxiety.”
Makes sense. Babies are innocent, dependent creatures and moms are eager to soothe. It makes women feel important, useful, and craved in attention and need. Babies also give a companion for social situations in which an insecure woman would otherwise be alone for- she can focus solely on her baby instead of interacting with others and having to face her social insecurities. Bumpaholics also tend to have babies to try to “fix” things- like marriages, not wanting to work, or just choosing to have a purpose in life.
“Pregnancy is like a love drug, a baby-love drug,” says Weil. The body promotes Oxytocin during sex, pregnancy, delivery, and breastfeeding, and is a “cuddle” hormone provided to create a bond between mother and baby. Some women crave this bonding so much they just would rather be pregnant and caring for a baby more than anything else.
Being a “bumpaholic” isn’t really a bad thing- so long as a woman understands her need to be pregnant to feel fulfilled. Perhaps involving herself in more “me” time, finding things that build her confidence, or working on things that need to be fixed in her life rather than becoming pregnant all the time might be a better way to go, though. Some women just plain are addicted to being pregnant, and just simply enjoy the pregnancy and all that comes along with it.