No one is a perfect parent but being passive aggressive when parenting is a surefire way to push your kids away while letting them walk all over you. Here are the top ten statements you should steer clear of while parenting.
My brother is 9 and let’s just say he gets away with murder, but what drives me crazy is when my parents will say no to him and after he complains they will cave and let him do what he wants. This is just giving your kids the power!
2. “Here, talk to your sister!”
Parents – do not put older siblings in the middle of arguments with your younger children! This puts your older children in an awkward position and shows that you have a lack of authority and patience.
3. “You never come to visit, don’t you love us?”
Word of advice: do not make your older kids feel bad if they want to go out or can’t come visit a lot. This makes them feel inadequate and can put a serious strain on relationships. They will also feel pressured to come see you. Wouldn’t you rather they come see you when they want?
4. “I want you to be the best”
It’s always great to want your children to succeed but pushing them to do too many activities and getting straight A’s can make them feel like you only care about accomplishments and not them.
5. “You’re in the show but you didn’t get the lead?”
If your child shares that they accomplished something small but they are excited about it, be excited with them! Kids need encouragement but even if they aren’t the best at something it is important that they have fun.
6. “When I was your age…”
Honestly, your kids don’t care about when you were their age. We’re in the now and saying how they have so much more then you did will just annoy them and get you a lot of eye rolls.
7. “We just try to do what’s best for you.”
Yet again another guilt inducing comment – no kid wants to hear this. They want to vent and get their feelings out without having to feel bad for feeling a certain way.
8. “Stop being dramatic.”
All kids are dramatic but if they are acting out there could be a serious problem. Talk to your kids and don’t take things too lightly because some issues can spiral out of control.
9. “I’m so disappointed.”
Sometimes this does need to be said, but make sure you have reasons to back it up. Also, don’t use this statement too often or it will completely lose its meaning.
When parents say, “Whatever” to their kids my heart breaks a little. You are the parent, so don’t act like a child or else they will just follow your example.