I have very few regrets in my life. It definitely has not been all peaches and cream, but all-in-all, I am pretty happy as I head quickly towards age 50. I am happy that I don’t look like it.
Honestly, I would not change a thing . Changing something bad could possibly alter something good that may have arose from it. For example, you marry a total goober and get a divorce after you’ve had children. While that may suck terribly, in reality, without that goober you may not have had the children (or child) that you have. One has to look at life from various angles to make sense out of it sometimes. I believe that everything happens for a reason and there are lessons to be learned, whether it’s something good or bad.
Ah, I think of my years as a teenager and adolescent with both fondness and angst, but without regret or remorse. If I could somehow go back in time and advise my 15-year-old self on life. This is my advice I would have given to myself:
1. ON LOVE: You can love somebody, but not like them as a person. You can like somebody, but liking is not love. Love is rare and hard to come by.
2. ON HIGH SCHOOL: Excel in high school and apply yourself academically. There’s time to party later. Oh yeah, and ignore cliques, haters, wanna-bees and bullies because shortly after high school, they quickly become unimportant and you’ll never see them again.
3. ON TRYING TO CHANGE OTHER PEOPLE: You can’t change another person and you will make yourself crazy trying to, if they are not receptive to it.
4. ON DREAMS: Never underestimate the power of your dreams. Believing in them and acting on that belief will get you where you want to be.
5. ON LUST AND SEX: Never misinterpret good sex for love. Good sex is good sex. Love is love.
6. ON PARENTS: Most parents raise their child by experimentation, trial and error and hope. They just pretend like they’ve got it all together and actually know what they are doing.
7. ON BEAUTY AND SEXINESS: It’s nice to be attractive or good looking and all, but in the grand scheme of things sexiness has absolutely nothing to do with looks. Beauty is sometimes a facade. Nobody likes a beautiful idiot or a handsome devil. Flaws can be exceptionally beautiful.
8. ON MONEY: It’s not the root of all evil, but misuse of it can be. It’s necessary in order for one to have a good and comfortable life. Easy come and easy go. Money cannot buy happiness, but happiness can give you the strength to make money.
9. ON TURNING EITHER AGE 18 OR AGE 21: Becoming either of these ages does not turn you instantly into an adult. Adulthood is a learning process that continues long after you’re an adult. Some people never actually become adults.
10. ON LIVING: Live like there is no tomorrow. Love like there’s no tomorrow and no yesterdays. Laugh at everything, even when it’s not supposed to be funny because being serious all the time sucks and it’s boring. Always keep the youthful exuberance and excitement about things that you had when you were about five years old. Create something. Dance. Sing. Most definitely go to Disney World or Disneyland at least once if you go no place else. Don’t take all of this too seriously and don’t worry about where you’re going when you leave here. Be a good person. Live in a way that when you are on your deathbed, you’ll think, “Damn, that was fun!”