Would you go back and be fifteen all over again? Even armed with the years of wisdom and maturity, I think that I would pass. Knowing what I know now, I wouldn’t fit in (again). Fifteen is an experience that should only be done once. There is no such thing as getting it right. The truth is that no one does.
With that said, if I could somehow go back in time and advise my 15 year old self, these are 10 things that I would tell myself to help myself through and maybe even make the road a little bit smoother.
1-Love your body
No matter how much I workout, after several pregnancies my body will never look the same as it did when I was fifteen years old. I remember hating my curves and having a hard time adjusting to the fact that I didn’t have boyish hips. Looking back at pictures of my 15 year old self I realize that the body I picked apart wasn’t all that bad.
2-Truth or dare
Sex changes everything. At 15, I felt left out because it seemed like everyone was “doing it”. I would tell my 15 year old self that waiting until I was older would be a much better choice.
Teenagers talk about a lot of personal things but many of us had family secrets that we didn’t share. Maybe realizing that I wasn’t the only teenager with a dysfunctional family would have made me feel like I fit in.
Looking to your peers for acceptance is something that too many teenagers do. I would urge my 15 year old self to try out for the drama club and not allow insecurity to keep me from exploring what high school had to offer.
5-Boys mature slower than girls
Fifteen year old girls who think that a fifteen year old guy is interested in anything other than “getting lucky” are romantic fools. Very few people wind up living happily ever after with a guy they dated at fifteen.
6-The “right” guy and I would find each other someday
Fifteen was a time where either some guy broke my heart or didn’t even know I existed. Somehow someone telling me that the right guy would come along someday didn’t seem to help. I would stress to my 15 year old self that it really is true. Although for me it took some time, we did find each other when the time was right for both of us.
7-Cherish my grandparents
Being fifteen you don’t always appreciate wisdom. I would advise my young self to take the time to get to know my grandparents better because they won’t be around forever.
8-Parenting isn’t easy
When I was little, my parents knew it all. When I was 15, they were just out of touch. Guess what? They really weren’t that bad. I made it harder on them then I had to. Partly out of spite, partly just to be rebellious but I now know how it feels to be in their shoes.
9-30 isn’t that old
When I was 15, being 30 sounded so old. Thirty is not old and although you may not look the same on the outside, on the inside you remember being “young”.
10-Your choice of friends will help to dictate your future
Well-meaning teachers and my parents warned me but I didn’t listen. The truth is that your choice of friends can help to dictate your future. You can always change things but getting back on track may be harder because of who your friends are.