1. Boyfriends are a Waste of Time
I had my first serious boyfriend when I was 15. His name was Kyle and we dated for 18 months. I soon learned all my dreams of our future marriage and children (Tristan and Lily) were a waste of my time. I lost a few good friends due to the excessive amount of time I spent with boyfriends and learned this: don’t date until you are old enough to actually consider marriage.
2. Friends ARE Everything
As mentioned above, I lost several friends because I was more focused on my boyfriend of the month. Consequently, I ended high school with ONE very good friend who stuck around through thick and thin and is still friends with me to this day. I regret not having more of those types of friends. The friends you make now could be friends for life. And that being said, make sure you choose the right ones; ones who will lift you up and are involved in positive things.
3. Get Involved
That darn boyfriend of the month seemed to consume all my time. Obviously I had no time for anything but him. Of course, that also meant I wasn’t involved in school activities. No football games, no dances (unless I was going with him), no extra curricular activities= NO LIFE. Get involved in school; the memories will last you a life time.
4. Drugs – Don’t Experiment
After Kyle and I broke up, my world came to an abrupt halt. Rebound boyfriend came along and he happened to smoke pot. I said no to it for a long time, but eventually caved. The 3rd time I caved, it turns out the pot was laced with something else and I ended up in the emergency room getting a shot in the butt to lower my racing heartbeat. Trust me when I say, you never want to have to call and wake up your mother and ask her to come pick you up from the hospital.
5. College Should Be a Requirement Like High School Is
I graduated from high school in the top of my glass. My GPA was something like 3.93%. And I did go to college…for a year. Oh and I went to community college too…for a year. And you know what I have to show for it? You guessed it…NOTHING! Unfortunately I have learned you really do need a college degree to get a decent job. But keep in mind; it doesn’t necessarily have to be a “college” degree. It can also be a degree from a trade school.
6. Come Out of Your Shell
I am not an outgoing person. In fact, when they made me take those tests in high school to come up with my four-letter personality type, my first letter was always “I”. I=introverted. And to this day, I would say 85% of my high school class doesn’t know I can sing. I mean really sing. Sing so well my dad was going to pay for the flight to audition for American Idol. Oh but wait, I threw that chance out too, because I was too scared to perform in front of anyone. DO IT!!! So what if you fail? You tried and the accomplishment of trying is way more exciting than singing to yourself in the car.
7. That Feeling in the Pit of Your Stomach Means Something
Ever get that feeling? The one that is telling you maybe what you’re doing isn’t such a great idea? Maybe you should stop? Maybe you need to suddenly come up with a reason why you can’t tag along? LISTEN TO IT!!!
8. You Are NOT Old Enough to Have Sex
Remember Kyle? I also lost my virginity to Kyle. I mean why wouldn’t we have sex? We were going to be together forever and were going to get married and have two kids, a boy and a girl. WRONG! Turned out some chic he worked with at McDonald’s was on his radar. So I lost Kyle, and although I thought my world had come to an end, it turns out Kyle was just a boy and there were many more “fish in the sea”. BUT, one thing I couldn’t get back was my virginity. I realize I am approaching a religious sink hole here, but sex really should be saved for marriage. And if you don’t think along the same lines as I do, then at least save it for the person you truly believe you are going to marry. Oh, and always remember there is no such thing as 100% effective birth control other than abstinence, so if you aren’t ready for kids, you aren’t ready for sex.
9. My Parents Divorce Won’t Be the End of the World
Boy is this one hard to swallow. Even to this day it’s hard to digest. My parents had been married for 22 years when they got divorced and it was one of those divorces where no one even knew something was wrong in the marriage. During and after the divorce I lost a lot of things. Obvious things were my sense of family, my house, my security; but, there were other things like my morals. Sex with Kyle and pot smoking all came during or after the divorce. I also stopped going to church for two years after the divorce. It sometimes seems when parents divorce they end up going on with their lives and the children are stuck in the aftermath of this life altering earthquake. I wish I would have realized at 15 that my life would go on and I couldn’t let my parents choices alter my path in life. It was a speed bump, not a road block and I unfortunately couldn’t see that at the time.
10. This Comes Before That
Life should be an ordered checklist. Keep this in mind for the future: High School, College, Job with a Steady Income, Marriage (then sex depending on your beliefs) and then children. Try to put one of these things in front of the other and things usually fall apart and often you don’t end up completing some important items on the Checklist of Life.