Marriage is one of the most important steps you will ever take in your life. But before you decide to settle down, you will want to make sure you have spent time getting to know your partner and making sure that this is the person you actually plan to spend the rest of your life with. Honesty and good communication are an integral part of a marriage, but as you prepare to walk down the aisle, should you disclose a Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD) diagnosis to your future spouse?
Your Partner Has a Right to Know
As you prepare for the wedding, the last thing you will want to discuss with your partner is your STD diagnosis. Even though your partner was not part of the problem, they have a right to know, especially as they could be putting themselves at risk of also contracting the STD. If you do not disclose your STD diagnosis, you will knowingly be putting your future spouse at risk if you engage in unprotected sex, which is unfair on them. In addition, unprotected sex with your unsuspecting spouse could lead to fertility issues if you choose to start a family.
Keeping Quiet Leads to Mistrust
Keeping quiet might seem like the only available option, but how will you respond if your new spouse suddenly finds out about your STD diagnosis? This can lead to mistrust and trouble in your new marriage. Moreover, your spouse may even start to wonder what else you have kept secret from them. Rather than opening the way to honest, open communication, withholding information about an STD diagnosis will simply lead to further problems in your relationship.
Coming to terms with an STD diagnosis can be embarrassing without having to also deal with confronting your partner and inform them of what has happened. Some feel that their partner will adversely judge them for their past indiscretions or even call off the wedding. But if you do not disclose your STD, you may face even more severe repercussions later on if your spouse finds out that you have kept the STD secret. They may suspect you of unfaithfulness, even if you contracted the STD long before your marriage.
An STD diagnosis can be embarrassing and difficult to talk about, but the one person you should not hold back from is your partner, as you prepare to get married. They have a right to know of your sexual history if it will impact their own health. Keeping quiet about an STD, past or present, can lead to mistrust in a relationship. The best thing you can do is to overcome your embarrassment at your STD diagnosis, and let your partner know.