Correct parenting wasn’t something I grew up with. When I found out I was pregnant with my first child I knew I wasn’t going to be like my mother, who was strict and abusive. I had no idea how to be a parent. My life experiences as a child taught me only how not to be a parent.
My first life changing moment was when I first heard his cries in the delivery room. I knew right then and there he was going to be the happiest child and the most loved. I held him in my arms and knew without a doubt I would do anything to protect him and guide him and give him a life I never knew.
The second life changing moment was when my son entered preschool. He cried and I almost picked him up and carried him back out the entrance. He didn’t want to go to school and I didn’t want to go home without him. I left the school feeling guilty and cried as I drove home. Eventually, I realized that sometimes you have to let your child go, in any situation.
The third life changing moment was having a daughter who was a complete opposite of her brother. My son was calm and hardly ever cried as a baby. My daughter cried constantly. I became frustrated with the doctors because they couldn’t find anything wrong with her. She was healthy in every way possible. I was happy she was fine but I didn’t like that I couldn’t help her. I became frustrated with myself. I felt my love wasn’t enough to calm her. I felt like I was failing. It hurt even more at night, when my husband was the only one who could calm her enough to go to sleep. When she was about 7 months the crying began lessening and eventually subsided. I still don’t know what caused her for 7 months to cry day and night.
The fourth life changing moment was when my son was 10 years old and I overheard him talking to his friends about me. His friends were telling him his mom was fun and he told them, “Yeah my mom is really cool!” I had done it. I was raising two children who were happy and really loved me. I was doing something right. You know you’re a good parent when you hear your child telling his friends that you’re cool.
My fifth life changing moment was just this past school year when we made the personal decision as a family to begin home schooling. My son, who was diagnosed with ADHD, wasn’t doing well in school and my daughter who was advanced, was getting bored. We knew they both needed more than what the public school system could provide. My son needed one on one and my daughter needed more challenges. I have to admit it wasn’t easy at first but we are doing great now. My sons grade level is where it should be now and my daughter learns something new everyday.
Becoming a parent for me is the most rewarding life experience anyone can ever go through. I wouldn’t change the way I was raised because I became a better person because of it. I am the best mother I can be.