Growing up, hate was not a word we used in our house. My parents taught me that hate was such a strong word; an ugly word; a hurtful word; and if I really disliked something-rather than hate it-I could dislike it intensely.
This is one “hand-me-down” that I am working to instill in my daughter and we don’t often have to have the-I hate (whatever)-conversation. Which is good, for now. But I know, as an adult, there are times where I cannot simply intensely dislike something (or even someone). Sometimes I just hate.
The moments of hate do not usually last long; and to be honest, those moments usually have more to do with me and my mood then what or who is making me hate. I then rationalize, justify, and usually apologize (at least in my mind) for thinking or speaking the words…I hate.
But still, I believe we all have certain “things” we do hate and it makes no one better than anyone else to have uttered those words (or not) at one time or another. And with this in mind I share with you the five things I hate about you-who or what-ever you are.
5 Things I Hate About You:
#1: Inconsiderate Drivers-let’s call them “The Special People”
Cut me off in traffic? Oh you must be special because wherever you’re going is much more important than where I have to be.
Ignore the lane closure sign? For the last 5 miles you’ve seen the signs; we all saw the signs. Yet you decided to drive in that lane; despite the fact that everyone else got over; and now you’re just going squeeze in here. You must be special-sure, you can get in front of me-you’re welcome.
Talk, text, tweet; eat, do your make-up, make the grocery list; all while you are behind the wheel of a moving vehicle? You are the most special of all. And extremely good at multi-tasking. Good for you. Now get to where you’re going so I can-more safely-too.
Sometimes I intensely dislike you; but more often than not-even for an instant-I hate an inconsiderate driver. Maybe I’m just irritated that you are more special than me.
#2: People who are always right, even when they are (so very clearly) wrong. I cannot tell you that you are wrong; it’s a risk for me and a possible 20 minutes-or more-of my life wasted while you explain why your way of thinking is far superior to mine. Okay, you are right. Please forgive me-I hate you.
#3: The day(s) when nothing goes right. Though this usually has much to do with which side of the bed I woke up and crawled out of; I choose to hate the day. Whatever day, for whatever reason, this day nothing is going right and I hate you, darn day.
#4: Abuse of the English language. This one has everything to do with me and I honestly admit it. Poor grammar, miss-spelling, text-speak, Ebonics, and pretending to know what that big word you just used actually means. I make no claims toward perfection but somewhere along the line I decided not to sound like an idiot when communicating with others and sometimes I hate that you just don’t seem to care how you sound.
#5: People who complain all the time. Negative Nancys; those who never see the good in anything; and those who blame others for their lot in life. You know who you are-no further explanation needed-but you should also know that sometimes I hate you and your complaining ways. Suck it up and get over yourself.
And here’s a bonus-the irony of it all: Sometimes I hate that I’ve been guilty of any one of the above at some point in my life. I do not believe a person on this planet can (or should) admit total perfection. Please don’t bother trying, I might hate you for it and hate is such an ugly word.
So while I try never to hate myself, sometimes I do intensely dislike the way I sometimes react to: inconsiderate drivers; your insistence that bananas are blue when clearly they are yellow; Tuesdays (or Fridays or whatever days); bad English-the language not the group; and over-complainers.
So sometimes I may apologize for intensely disliking you. Go ahead, do your thing; and I will do mine. Just remember that sometimes I hate you and now you know why.
Please note: This author has been guilty of ALL of these things at times in her life. She makes no apologies if any of these 5 things applies to you-and has no regrets for any which apply to her. Perfection is highly over-rated. Just getting along-vastly under-rated; and hate is an ugly word.