People tell you that having children will change your life. What isn’t clearly expressed is how they change your life and to what degree. I am the mother of three willful, independent, strong and caring children. From the moment they took their first breaths, they have been changing my life and continue to do so every day.
I Laugh More
I’ve found that laughter heals everything. From a bad day at work, to a boo-boo earned while learning to ride a bike, laughter is the best medicine. It makes no difference if I make my children laugh first or they get me giggling. Once we get going, the cares and worries of the day simply vanish. I proudly wear my smiles lines because I’ve earned them.
I Clean Less
I’ve discovered that having a clean house, well groomed yard and dressing like a fashion plate do not compare with the time spent building memories while working a jigsaw puzzle at the kitchen table together or playing board games on the living room floor. If the clean laundry sits in the basket for a couple of days, it will not make me a failure. Ignoring the precious time I have with my children, will.
I’m Constantly Broke
I’ve learned that new cars and exotic vacations give way to braces and music lessons when the family income stretches just so far. We don’t go to the Bahamas anymore. We visit local nature centers and museums and have just as much fun as when my husband and I had no children, maybe a little more. Nothing compares with sharing something with your children and watching them develop an interest or love of something.
My Needs Don’t Count
I know that no matter how much I looked forward to relaxing this evening, if my daughter needs to sob over her latest heartbreak or my son has swimming meet, I will drop my plans and rush to be there for them. My shoes with the split sole that I need to replace can wait one more week because my child wants to see the newest Harry Potter movie. There is nothing I wouldn’t give up for my children.
My Life Has Meaning
Before my children arrived, the world centered on me. It was all about what I could accomplish with my life, what I could accumulate. Children change that. It shifts to what they can accomplish, what they can do with their lives. It becomes all about helping them fulfill their destiny and reach their dreams. Suddenly my life took on meaning and direction that it lacked.
Source: Personal Experience