Many details of a person’s personality and being are changed when becoming a parent. The act of caring for a child, being completely responsible for their wants and needs, can drastically alter life. Although a few of the changes may be considered negative or unwelcome, the vast majority of the transformations parenthood brings are beneficial and fulfilling. Here are 5 ways my life changed when I became a parent:
Before children and throughout my firstborn’s pregnancy, sleep was a luxury I could indulge in whenever I chose. Of course, I didn’t realize how much of a luxury sleep really was until my son was born after a 23 hour labor and a few nights of no sleep from unsuccessful inductions. Sleep has been sporadic ever since. Parenthood has many, many amazing benefits, but one of the challenges is the lack of sleep.
With the birth of each of our children, the relationship between my husband and I has been affected. Our dynamic has changed from a couple, to parents of one, to two, and now three beautiful children. Each addition to our family has brought new adjustments in our union. Luckily, for us, being parents have made us closer and brought a new depth to our marriage and relationship.
The idea of fun has evolved with parenthood. Before becoming a parent, fun was something that was planned and sought after. Since becoming a parent, fun has become more spontaneous and easily found. Children are able to be fully in a moment and have extreme fun and enjoyment in the simplest of situations. As a parent, my kids have taught me how to have fun in any situation without having to plan something special or extravagant.
The focus before having children was, wrong or not, mostly centered on myself. I was concerned about my schooling, my job, and my happiness and well-being. Becoming a parent has changed the focus from myself to my family and children. My needs and wants, although still important, are not the spotlight of my attention.
I loved my husband and extended family before I had children, but the depth of my love increased when I became a parent. Not only did I feel infinite love for my children, but the love I felt for my husband and extended family intensified. With each new baby added to our family, my capacity for love continued to grow. Being a parent has allowed me to love more deeply.