Most relationships are challenging as it is. As time goes by, it’s normal for guys to get a bit bored. It’s not all about sex either. Though sex is an important aspect of keeping your man interested, there’s a bit more to it. I’ll give you some tips on how to keep your man interested in you.
Let Us Know
I’m going to let you in on a little secret. Despite the fact that your man will deny this, he (and most of us) are not that smart. We do NOT read smoke signals, we can’t take hints, and most important, we are not able to read between the lines. I can’t say this enough. Talk to your man in plain and clear sentences and get to the point. Don’t play little games with your man. Don’t put a steak in front of us and expect us not to eat it. For example…Don’t tell us to go out and have fun with the boys to test us to see if we’re going to say something like, “Oh that’s OK baby, I’d rather stay home, cuddle up on the couch with you and watch the new J Lo movie with you.”. I’ll tell you right now, that is not likely to happen. In a situation like that, don’t say, “No way, you have to stay home with me tonight”. Just come out to say something like, “Well hon, I was hoping that we could cuddle up on the couch and watch a movie tonight.” The chances are, he will stay home with you or cut his night out with the boys short.
Every now and then, I’ll be talking to my lady and I know that she’s not listening to me. How do I know? I’ll throw in a sentence like, “And last night I had a three way with two hot waitresses”. And she says, “OK”. Of course I didn’t do that (I’m not that lucky). I just said that to confirm that she wasn’t listening to me and of course, I was correct.
Now I’m not saying that you have to hang on his every word like he has found a cure for cancer, but be attentive at least. Even if you don’t care anything about how his day went, at least act like you’re interested. Look him into the eye when he’s speaking. Be genuinely sympathetic or empathetic. Let him know that you are there for him if he needs to speak his mind.
One thing that men have in common with women is that both men and women need to know that our partner is there for us in every way and that we can talk to them about anything that’s on our mind.
Yeah, I know that you ladies are rolling your eyes now and thinking that a MAN obviously wrote this. Well that’s true but let me explain a bit.
A woman that gives her man a lot of sex has a tremendous amount of power. I saw a female comedian once who mentioned that she could get her man to clean the house, do the dishes, set the table and all sorts of stuff like that if she just made him think that by him doing those things, she would get all hot and bothered. I won’t go into the graphic description but you get the idea. My best friend of thirty years had a girlfriend. She was cute and all but she wasn’t good for him in so many ways. He knew this early on in the relationship too. Did he up and leave? Yes, eventually. However, he stayed with her for about three years. Why did he stick it out for so long? Because she was like a porn star in bed and she had a unstoppable sex drive. All of the things that most guys don’t dare to ask their lady for sexually, she would do and he didn’t even have to ask her. You can chalk that up to “Men are pigs” but the fact is, most guys will put up with a lot of grief for a lot longer from his lady if she is very sexual with him. Now I’m not saying that you should disrespect yourself and be his own little up for anything (and I mean ANYTHING) porn star. However, fact is that your man will be a lot better of a man if he is getting good sex on a regular basis.