When someone says, “You are living in the past.” Give them a reason why it’s a good thing. A person can live in the past through education. Education becomes past, present & future. Education can be schooling, university or online, and life learning.
“You are living in the past.” What does this mean? Does it make a difference? What does it teach?
How can living in the past make you who you are?
Emotions and their degree of difficulty can put you in a state that transforms the way you respond to inner and outer stimuli. Prior emotions can inhibit a response or exhibit a proper or improper response.
How can living in the past maintain who you are?
It is through experience whether positive or negative.
Does the past make you flawed?
The past won’t make you flawed but you can choose to be flawed by letting others dictate who you are. If others see you as flawed and you accept their reasoning then you and not the past makes you flawed.
The past is your perception of reality, which ties the present and future together. “You are living in the past” is what education, emotions and experience teaches you. When someone say this to you take it as a compliment for life is about living, learning and experience.
How can you move beyond the past if the past disables you?
“Let it go,” may be an answer heard for moving beyond disablement. Grief is often a stage of disablement tied to the past that in the reality of its perception leads one to believe they could have done, would have done and should have done things in an alternate manner. Words should have been spoken or taken back if the future present were known.
Staying in this present stage is living in the past if the grief cannot be overcome by sheer willpower.
Moving beyond this stage calls for realizing that in your state of perception at the time the event occurred that led to the present grief the interaction between the encounter was only what your mind could comprehend. Your mind responded from the learning and experience it had received up until that point. The persona of self changed with grief. Moving beyond this stage is simply to tell your self that grief comes in two sets. Grief comes from the other individual or the something that was lost. The individual or the something lost shares responsibility for the grief. They shared responsibility in that they could have, would have and should have done. Words should have been spoken or taken back by them. Grief doesn’t travel one way it travels both ways.