Stop the Bullying.
I stand between the bully and the student(s) being bullied. I seek to disengage the students’ eye contact between each other, and have all bystanders who witnessed the event remain present. I do not discuss reasons for the bullying immediately.
Reference School Rules against Bullying
I remind the student who is bullying to school rules regarding bullying, and state what I saw or heard in a matter-of-fact tone. I remind the bully and other students that bullying is not tolerated. A statement can be made such as, “That was bullying, and I won’t allow it.”
Support the Child being Bullied
There is a need to establish support for the child being bullied. I extend help to the child so they can regain self-control, ‘save face’, and feel safe. I do not ask what happened at time of occurrence, and let other teachers know if necessary so they can provide support. I supervise more to keep reoccurrence of bullying down.
Bystanders are involved in the conversation. I supply instruction to bystanders about how they can help next time. I do not ask bystanders to explain what happened in public, but support bystanders by using a matter-of-fact tone thanking them for their assistance. I also encourage bystanders not responding to be more proactive next time. For example, get an adult for help or tell the bully to stop.
Enforce Consequences Immediately
Consequences are determined immediately for the bully. Students are not asked to apologize during the intensity of the incident. Consequences should be connected to the incident and follow school rules and consequences. I begin by taking away social activities such as recess. I inform the bully that they will be watched, as well as their friends, to make sure there is no retaliation.
Do Not Ask Students to Meet to Work Things Out
I do not make students reconcile, because bullying is the result of a power imbalance and this intervention does not work. This process usually does not make the situation better. It can also retraumatize the student being bullied. As an alternative, educate the student who bullied to makes things right for the child being bullied with your assistance.