Being a teenager can be difficult. It’s a time when not only their body is changing but relationships too. Most teenager are in a hurry to grow up and some parents forget what that’s like. A teenager won’t come out and say they need their parents but they do. Parents need to be involved in their children’s lives. Failure to be involved can be inviting trouble into your teenagers life, as well as the parents. The teenage years can be a battle or a time where the teenager and parents transition their relationship into an adult relationship.
There are some things that should be important to a teenager like their spiritual life, body image and relationship with their parents. A spiritual relationship with God or your higher power is important. As a teenager this relationship can truly be tried and tested, as it can be at any age. Teenagers need to work hard at keeping and holding on to that relationship. It can be a base to really set them on the right path in life. Plus it’s one of the most important relationships they’ll have for a life time.
A relationship with parents is important. The parent and teen relationship can really be stressed and at times seem broken. It’s important for both the parents and the teenager to make that relationship a priority. When life is hard and there seems to be no one to turn to, a parent is always there. Parents of teenagers need to keep trying even when a teenager appears to be on the wrong path.
As teenagers it can seem like those endless hours in school are a waste of time. Teenagers need to embrace their education and take it seriously. An education will bring job opportunities and give the life they dream of. Without an education life will be difficult and always seem like a fight. While education and work are not always fun, struggling through life is worse.
Teenagers often struggle with body image. Some teens think they are to fat or to skinny, to tall or to short. A body image can seem like the most important thing to a teenager. As a teenager the body is always changing. When dealing with a teenager with a body image issue take things slowly. Try to get to the heart of the problem. Is it something they truly believe or is it something that was said to them or they heard on a media source. When you get to the root of the problem, work with the teenager until the body image issue is better. To many teenagers let body image issues result in an eating disorder or suicide, it can all be avoided.
Teenagers need to learn and know the importance of a well balanced diet. Teenagers tend to load up on chips and soda or cut out eating from time to time. Teenagers are prone to eating disorders. It’s very important that teenagers have the proper diet available to them. Good eating habits are formed very young and should be reinforced daily. Eating a proper diet might help a teenager avoid an eating disorder, different illnesses and will help them have a positive body image.
The best advice to give a teenager would be to pick your friends wisely. While some friends seem to be more fun, others seem to be more smart and some people are just to ugly to spend time with, some of those people won’t stay in your life to long. Before judging anyone give them the opportunity to prove they are a good person. As a teenager a lot of things happen in life, seemingly all at once. It’s the person who is there through thick and thin that you should focus on, not the person who’s no where to be found when you need them but always there when they need something.
Teenagers fail to realize that driver’s license comes with big responsibilities and does cost money. Teenagers should really think through being mature and responsible enough for a driver’s license and all that comes with it. Teenagers need to know that a driver’s license is about more then asking dad and mom for the keys. Also, teenagers should be taught that it’s a privilege to borrow the car and drive, when a parent says “no” there is a reason. A parent should talk that reason out with the teenager using it as a teaching lesson and not turning it into a fight between the parent and teenager.
Teenagers have a thinking that can seem like “money grows on trees”. Teenagers need to know the value of money and how to value money. The best way to teach money is a job. A job might be a Summer job to not affect studies or a part time job through the school year. When a teenager is responsible for making their own money, they are more likely to respect money and make better financial choices.
Teenagers need to know that kisses aren’t contracts. Their may kiss a lot more people. Their heart may get broken multiple times before that right person comes in their lives. Teenagers need to be given the tools to deal with those heart breaks such as having a good body image and a good relationship with their parents.
Teenagers need to know that sex can wait. There’s can be a lot of peer pressure and curiosity regarding sex. Parents need to teach their children that sex can wait. Also parent’s need to remember what they were like as teenagers. Parents have a hard time talking to their teenagers about sex. The reality is teenagers are having sex. It’s good to keep lines of communication open about sex. Also, teaching your teenager about safe sex. If you don’t, they could end up pregnant or with an STD. It’s worth a little bit of uncomfortable conversation’.
Teenagers need to think about their future. Teenagers tend to live from day to day, rarely thinking about their future. Teenagers need to focus on their education and how it relates to where they want to go as adults. Teenagers should embrace opportunities to try new things, travel new places and take risks that will help them prepare for their future.
My advice to teenagers is not to be in a hurry to grow up.
My advice to parents is to really be there for your kids, as they grow. Kids grow up quickly, don’t put off until tomorrow what you could do today. Your child needs you today.