Am I prejudiced?
There is a single black mother and she has her baby with her. That is fine, but we are in a university computing lab and it is suppose to be quiet. This kid wouldn’t know quiet from a pacifier. It is coughing, sneezing, whining, making a nuisance of itself.
Am I prejudiced against single mothers, black single mothers? Do I want to be seen as fair and open and that is what is stopping me from going over and telling the lady -” Please pack up your kid and get it out of here.” Am I suppose be kind and understanding that she is black, and single, and has a baby, and is trying to get through college? And she has no money for daycare or maybe the childcare fell through today and it is not her fault?
But does she have the right to come into a college computer lab, and try to do her work, while her baby disrupts the entire lab? I see students sneaking annoyed glances her way, and I am not too happy myself. But not one of us is getting up and asking her to take the baby out of here.
Because if we do that , we will be seen as uncaring. I, especially will be seen as an uncaring bastard, because I am a white man , do not understand the struggles of young single black mothers and by asking her to leave with her baby, I am ruining her chances of education.
I know. I already have been called insensitive by a black woman the other day. I teach at an all black college and mentioned that I was bothered that half the women in my class were under 21 and they all had babies, and not one woman had a husband or steady boyfriend. And several women in class already had two or three babies by two or three different fathers.
The black woman glared at me and said , “You don’t understand. That is from slavery times and that is genetic. The black man was used as a stud by the slave master and his job was to get as many women pregnant as possible and black men today have the same genetic trait.”
I did not say – “That sounds like a lot of Bull Shit and I worked three jobs at once to get my kids through school and if you have a kid, take care of the damn kid.” Because if I said that I would be prejudiced. Or at least viewed by her as prejudiced.
But back to the mother and the coughing, sneezing,, wheezing baby in the lab. Do I have a right to be upset? Or am I being prejudiced? Does the mother have more rights than me? And everyone else in the lab?
Or can I be truthful and say that I am not prejudiced; I don’t care if the mother is black, purple , green or white. A college computer lab is no place to bring a baby.
But this is a no-win situation. I will not speak to the young mother, I will just leave and come back later to do my work.