Friends come in many shapes, sizes, ages and sexes. Friends are great people to talk with at work, go out to coffee or do things on the weekend with. When those good friends become emotionally connected, it’s a slippery slope towards emotional infidelity.
Emotional infidelity is when you allow someone to fulfill yours or their emotional need that should be met by a partner (husband or wife). Friendships can begin innocently enough and lead to emotional infidelity. Emotional infidelity can be with members of the opposite sex which is common or someone of the same sex. It’s an emotional attachment.
You could be entering emotional infidelity, if some of the following signs have entered your friendship.
If you look forward to spending time or talking with that friend, more then your partner.
If you look forward to spending time or talking to them more then when the friendship began or more then a typical friend.
If you’re dressing up or spending more time on your appearance, when you know that friend will be around you.
If you’re confiding in that friend about relationship troubles, that you won’t talk your partner about.
If you turn to the friend, before your partner, about something that is bothering you.
If the friend is taking the place of your partner, it’s time to rethink and look at that friendship. If you’re in the position where things are out of hand or gone to far, there are something’s you can do to put a stop to things going further.
You should start by limiting the time spent with the friend. If this is a co-worker, stick to the business at hand and only at work. If this is a friendship outside of work, limit the activities or phone call with the friend. By setting limits, you are making new boundaries. In making new boundaries, put your relationship with your partner first. If the friend don’t accept that, you need to reconsider that friendship completely.
You should stop telling the friend your problems or concerns about your life or relationship. Your partner should be the one you turn to for those needs. If you’ve talked to your partner and still need additional support, then turn to another friend that you don’t have a full emotional bond with.
You should plan and do things with your partner again. Putting your relationship first will tell your husband or wife that they are important, as well as build that bond to a strong level again.
Everyone is at risk of for emotional infidelity. Even a solid and strong relationship can be subjected to emotional infidelity. When someone gives attention and affection, it’s easy to become emotionally attached. While it’s good and healthy to have friendships with people of both sexes, there are boundaries that shouldn’t be crossed. Always keep your relationship with your partner strong and the focus of your life, while enjoying healthy friendships with others.