The convenience and public nature of Facebook makes accessing a former boyfriend or girlfriend easier than ever before. While former flames can certainly move forward into a friendly relationship and appreciate keeping appraised of what is going on in each others life, keeping in contact after a romantic relationship ends can make it difficult to truly move on and let go. If you are are in contact with a former boyfriend or girlfriend, it is possible that you are still nurturing romantic feelings for that person. You may find yourself becoming more reliant on Facebook to maintain that link between the two of you. A friendly Facebook friendship can turn into an obsessive, stalker kind if you don’t take notice of the signs. This article will provide questions to ask yourself if you have an inkling that you are indeed Facebook stalking your ex.
Do You Keep Facebook Logged On All Day So As Not To Miss Any Status Updates? If youregularly keep an open tab on your laptop so that you can check Facebook several times an hour to see if your ex is logged on and changed his or her status update, that could be a sign of Facebook stalking. If you gloss over messages and postings of your friends and family to constantly refresh your ex Love’s Profile page, that is certainly not a good sign.
Do You Spend Hours Poring Over The Ex Boyfriend Or Girlfriend’s Photographs On His Facebook Profile? If you feel that you can better construct an idea of how your ex boyfriend or girlfriend spends time, now that you are no longer spending your time together, by poring over Facebook pictures for hours and hours, that could certainly be construed as Facebook stalking. If you are always on the lookout for a new face that may be the new love interest and then searching that person’s name on the site, that may be a sign of Facebook stalking.
Are You Using The Former Flame’s Shared Information To Track Him Or Her Down? If you find out where the ex works, their current city or new favorite haunts by reading Facebook information and then start showing up at these places, that may be a sign of Facebook stalking. If you are rebuffed after the first “accidental” meeting, and then use that information to show up again, that is certainly a bit of stalker behavior.
Do You Opt To Stay Home For A Glimpse Of Your Ex On Facebook, Instead Of Spending Time With Friends? If a night of dinner, drinks and a movie with a circle of friends is less appealing than staring at your flame’s Facebook page, that is certainly not a good sign. This behavior is very unhealthy and makes it far more difficult to move out of the past and into the present.
Do You Obsess For Days Over Comments Your Ex Made About Your Status Updates? If you spend more than a passing moment thinking about an innocent comment that your ex made about your recent status update, or recheck your email to see if you received a notification that another comment was made, this could indicate a cross over to the Facebook stalker side.
Do You Spend Time Investigating An Unfamiliar Face Or Person Mentioned On His Or Her Facebook Page? While it is perfectly normal to be curious about a new person in your former flame’s life, it is extremely unhealthy and certainly indicative of stalker behavior to interrogate mutual friends and other acquaintances about this new person. Using posted Facebook information by him or her to gain more personal information that was not shared directly with you is a fruitless waste of time and definitely paints you as a stalker.
Stalking is not only defined by peeping in a window or following someone in a car all day long. It can take many forms, but Facebook stalking may seem entirely innocent as it is done from the privacy of your own home. Though it may seem as though it is not harmful or an invasion of privacy to your ex, it is certainly harmful to you. It keeps you stuck in the past and emotionally unfulfilled. If you see yourself in any of these questions, it may just be time to un friend that ex, turn off the computer and focus your energies in living in the real world, instead of the Internet one.