Marriage. That word alone changes everything instantly. Getting married makes things a little more complicated, even if you were living together before you actually got married. There are a ton of things to consider before taking that leap into wedded bliss. If you are comfortable in you answers to all the below questions, you should be able to make a clear headed choice when the time comes to get married. If you have even the slightest doubts, you should consider working through the issues before actually taking this big step.
Are You Ready To Settle Down?
While in a relationship, many people may still not be able to completely settle down. If you are not ready, that is not always a bad thing. Take time when considering this question. Ask yourself things like “Is this person the one I want to be with forever?”. Forever is a very long time. Also ask “Am I done dating around?”. If you feel like there still could be something more out there, don’t just settle for the person you are with now. It can lead to you being very unhappy in the future and even possibly make you into a cheater.
Is This Love or Lust?
These two things often are confused with one another. Before you decide to marry your partner, it is extremely important you decipher which one belongs with your relationship. Love is something like unconditional caring and compassion for the one you are with. Lust is something along the lines of feeling sexually drawn more so than emotionally. Without love, marriage just won’t last.
Can You See Your Life Without Your Partner?
This is also another important question. Most people believe you marry the person you cannot live without. If you aren’t sure that you feel this way, consider taking a step back. Marriages should essentially last “until death do you part”, though it isn’t a reality much lately. If you feel like you could go either way with your partner, consider the marriage step carefully.
Do You Both Agree On The Bigger Issues In A Relationship?
If you haven’t talked about things like children, places to live, and beliefs in general, you need to slow down and get a feel for each other on these before even considering marriage. If you both generally agree on these issues, that is a huge start. You don’t want to enter into a marriage only to find out that your partner does/doesn’t want kids and you don’t/do want them. It is best to sort through these issues before taking the next step.