The main goal is to question why you want the divorce. This is a major discussion and you both need to be open and honest in your talks. Remaining calm and non-threatening is a must. Do not just rush into the divorce option. You should try to work it out. Get counseling from someone you trust might be necessary.
If you have children, avoid bitter arguments when they are present. Do not talk bad about one another in front of or to the child. And do not make the child be a message carrier or go-between. Both parents need to make sure you give the child (or children) time, attention and emotional support.
Symptoms Of A Marriage In Trouble
Lack of communication is a big issue. Lack of talking, intimacy and listening to each others needs is a very big problem. If one or both partners feels they are not being understood, everything else will crumble.
Sexual infidelity is a sign that there is something wrong with the relationship. Some people are more likely to accept infidelity if both partners get counseling. Some can never get over it.
Some people have a hard time with a long-term relationship. After let’s say five years the sexual attraction or desire might lessen. Passion does wear off, but it can be reawakened from time to time with some motivation.
If you want to keep your marriage together you might want to seek guidance from a professional.
You have to be willing to meet each other’s needs by communicating with one another and getting involved in each other’s activities and be supportive in all aspects of the relationship.
Mutual respect for one another is key. Do not ever berate each other about personality or physical traits.
If one partner cannot or chooses not to get professional help or at least talk to the other partner about the troubling issues it is probably best to end the marriage.