I have read your messages about tolerance and compassion, and yet I know you are currently shunning certain people who want to participate in your life. How can you think this is compassionate behavior?
Confused by Your Inconsistency
First of all, I have never claimed to be perfect, so you should not expect me to behave according to your ideas of perfection. I also cannot please everyone, so I don’t expect you to necessarily understand all my behaviors. In fact, it is only because I try to lead others by example, that I really even feel the need to explain myself, so I hope this helps others in my position, not just your understanding.
Not everyone has good intentions. I can be harmed as easily as you can, and in fact, may be a little more sensitive than most, even if I do rationalize through it faster. I have seen the damage people do one another intentionally as well as accidentally, and I must not only be compassionate to others, but myself as well.
When someone I have seen hurt others repeatedly, comes to be for service, rather it be advice, or the desire to show me how they have changed, I may be able to understand their position, but I am not willing to put myself in the path of harm blindly. When I have good people trying to be better, I must make sure I can serve them instead of ill people trying to heal their psyche.
It is not that I am shunning anyone: to shun would be to ignore them completely and encourage others to do so as well. I know that people can change, and a successful change requires support form unexpected place; the people you have injured. It is the people have been injured that I am working with, not the perpetrator. I speak to the perpetrator of forgiveness and understanding, but that does not require that I be friends with them.
Being compassionate and tolerant does not mean being open to everyone and everything that wants a piece of you. Like all things in this existence, this too must be applied with balance. To find forgiveness and understanding for someone who deserves our hatred is compassionate enough. That does not mean that a relationship can’t grow out of the ashes, but that requires times, goodwill well shown, and miracles beyond human capacity.