Deployment is a difficult time for married couples. Deployment causes forced separation and vastly different experiences between spouses. Marriages are put under intense strain during a deployment. Given all the stress marriages are forced to endure during military deployment, are they able to survive?
Divorce rates for military marriages have been rising in recent years. The rise in divorce has been attributed to the deployments currently affecting large portions of military troops. With the United States military being heavily involved in two wars, marriages are experiencing increased strain and hardship. Adding to the difficulty of one deployment, many service members are facing more than one deployment, multiplying the risk for problems leading to divorce.
An important key to a successful marriage is communication. Often times, during a deployment, communication between spouses can be stifled. When communication is lacking, the result can be two people that no longer know each other and the end of a marriage. Maintaining communication by using internet tools and phone conversations is very important to helping a marriage survive. Sharing feelings and emotions, in addition to sharing their daily events, can keep spouses feeling connected and involved in each others’ lives.
Physical intimacy completely disappears during deployment. This can create many problems in a marriage and has contributed to many divorces for marriages enduring deployment. A way to continue sexual intimacy without the actual physical contact is to share intimate feelings and stories with one another through tools on the internet and phones. Although couples may feel odd doing so, this can be a great tool in continuing a marriage during deployment and avoiding intimacy issues that may contribute to divorce. Sleeping with a spouse’s shirt or smelling their cologne (or perfume) can also help in feeling physically close.
Combing the above risks during deployment, of losing communication and loss of physical intimacy, a lack of trust can develop between spouses. Maintaining confidence in a marriage during deployment takes faith and effort for both parties. Without trust between spouses, a marriage will have immense difficulty surviving during a deployment. The best way to have trust in your marriage is to be trustworthy.
Although there are many obstacles facing military marriages, divorce is not inevitable. Spouses can maintain their marriages and keep them strong throughout deployment. Speaking from personal experience, marriage during a deployment is not easy, but it is possible to keep a marriage thriving. My marriage has not only survived multiple deployments; it is flourishing! Effort and commitment from both spouses in a military marriage can ensure a marriage’s survival during a deployment.
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