Premature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual problems in men. In fact, most every man will experience premature ejaculation at least once in their lifetime and most will experience it numerous times. Regardless of the frequency in which men experience premature ejaculation it is still a problem that many men are incredibly embarrassed about. This is especially true when a man is with their partner for the very first time. However, men that are able to better understand the causes of premature ejaculation are better able to cope with it and potentially prevent it from happening.
What is premature ejaculation?
In order to understand the causes of premature ejaculation it is important to understand what it is. To simplify the definition somewhat premature ejaculation occurs when a man has an organism (comes) before he is ready to. This is something that is going to be relatively subjective as each man or couple has a different take on how soon is too soon for an orgasm to occur. For most it is pretty obvious that a man that is unable to have general control over their own orgasm is considered to have issues with premature ejaculation regardless of the length of time it takes for it to happen.
What causes premature ejaculation?
There are a variety of believed causes of premature ejaculation. However, each person is going to react completely different in a variety of situations so while there may be numerous potential causes not everyone has the same causes. To best understand what causes a male to ejaculate early it is best to understand men in general.
Many scientists have attempted to work through the reasons why a man may orgasm (come) too quickly. One theory suggests that it is an evolutionary trait. Think about it this way. Men that are able to achieve orgasm are the ones that are going to impregnate women and ultimately pass on their genetics. This means that someone who has issues with premature ejaculation could simply be part of natural selection. It could be a matter of genetics being passed down from generation to the next in favor of those that have a faster orgasm. This theory however is somewhat flawed as humans don’t compete like other animals for sexual domination of women. So one man isn’t going to impregnate dozens of women in most situations. This allows for those that do not have premature ejaculation to also continue their genetics as well.
The other theory is one that makes a little more sense. For most men ejaculation is conditioned over time. When men first start having sexual relations it is about having an orgasm quickly before they are caught in the act. This could be while having sex with their partner or through masturbation alone. The idea is that by men conditioning themselves to have a faster orgasm they are actually creating their own premature ejaculation problems. This is especially true for those that masturbate but do so quickly. They are conditioning the muscles to achieve orgasm at a much faster rate than those that do so slowly.
It is also believed that many have issues with premature ejaculation simply because of a lack of experience or because of a lack of stimulation. When the body experiences intimacy more frequently it is able to adapt and over time it because less of an EXPERIENCE and more of a practiced action. This explains why men will typically find better control over their ejaculation as they increase in age. It would also explain why those that have many sexual partners are often times considered better sexually. The additional practice would help those that are more promiscuous to develop a tolerance to sexual contact that would allow them to last longer.
Another major cause of premature ejaculation could be stress. Those that experience high levels of stress may either have an inability to achieve orgasm or achieve orgasm too quickly. It is all dependent upon the individual person as to how their body responds to the stress. The same is true with stimulants or depressants. Some say that they are able to last longer with alcohol while others say that they aren’t able to have sexual relations at all. Each person is going to react differently in this regard so it is difficult to gauge the impact that it will have on any given male.
Fixing Premature Ejaculation
There are numerous reasons why a male may experience premature ejaculation but with time and experience men are often times going to find that the problem will simply get better. It is also important to realize that the ejaculation can be trained over time. Much like a tennis player that trains their muscles to quickly respond to shots without thinking about them a male is able to train their body over time to better handle sexual intimacy and respond with a later ejaculation. This is done through sexual interaction that is slow and controlled. By extending the orgasm out it is possible to train the body to ejaculate at a later moment in time.
Products also exist that allow an individual to hold off ejaculation for a period of time. Creams that make the area a little less sensitive are great for those that are incredibly sensitive to intimacy. There are also pills that allow for firmness even after ejaculation has occurred negating the need for as much longevity.
Regardless of the cause of the problem or the method of resolving it many millions of men suffer from the same problems. It is important to simply stay calm, keep working at it, and over time and practice any man can increase their sexual stamina.