If you have been in a committed relationship such as marriage with your partner for a long while, you may find that your sex life isn’t the same as it once was. It made not be as regular or it may not be as passionate. This is normal. However, if you can learn what the common obstacles are for most couples when it comes to sex, along with some helpful tips on conquering these obstacles, maybe you can get your sex life and get your passion back on track.
Common obstacle number one: Boredom
Boredom just happens. It doesn’t mean that you don’t love or desire your partner. It just happens when you are with the same person and when you see the same person, after a period of time.
What is the solution?
• Shake things up a bit.
• Try new things.
• Wear new clothing
• Try role playing
• Don’t schedule sex
• Make it more fun
• Flirt more in and out of the bedroom
Common obstacle number two: You just can’t have intercourse
There are a number of actual health conditions that may interfere with the actual action of intercourse. This doesn’t mean that you and your partner does not have to stop being close and it may not mean that you can’t try other ways to bring your partner to orgasm.
If the condition doesn’t allow your partner to orgasm, find other intimate ways to be close.
Common obstacle number three: Too little time for foreplay
Foreplay is essential for most women. Statistics show that most women need up to twenty minutes to become fully turn on and become ready for sex. However, this doesn’t mean that you can’t begin to get her in the mood while in the bedroom. A man can begin by doing things that makes her feel special and makes her mind think along the lines of showing how she feels for you in the bedroom later. A man can be affectionate and even help around the house.
How can helping around the house help get a woman in the mood for sex? A woman’s brain is hard to shut off. If the dishes are piling up or she is worrying about the laundry, she may not be able to mentally get into sex as could if none of those chores were awaiting her.
As for the woman, she needs to try her best to learn to relax and try to think about all those chores when she has the chance to give in to passion.
Plus, all couples should not count how many times they have sex per week. There is no set number on how often a couple should have sex. But there is evidence that does state that the more one does have sex, the more one will find that they will want to have it again.