My son and daughter have had their share of medical issues-like all kids do. However, many of these issues were dismissed by the doctor as something that they will “grow out of”. Now one condition has resulted in two surgeries for my son, and my daughter will know if she will need surgery in two months. Being persistent with your doctor will aid in getting help for your children before having to result in more drastic results.
My son was diagnosis at the age of 6 with ADHD and Autism. Prior to this diagnosis we had to spend a year with him being very aggressive. I had to come and get him from his school several days in a row. He even tried to stab another student with a pencil and had thrown chairs across the room. The first time his teachers mentioned his off beat behavior was near the end of his second year in preschool. When I bought it up to the doctor she said maybe he was not getting enough sleep and he would ‘out grow’ his attitude. If my doctor would have listened to me as a mother then, I would not had to spend a couple of years not knowing what was going on in my son’s head.
Flat feet (pigeon toed)
My son was a late walker and when he did walk we noticed that something was wrong. His feet turned in (pigeon toed), and his ankles seemed to almost sit on the floor (flat feet). I was completely baffled at these abnormalities. I took him to three or four orthopedics, and his regular medical doctor on several occasions. They did x-rays after x-ray, and all they said was that it was just something he ‘would grow out of’. They showed me that I myself have a bit of the relaxed feet, and therefore they thought it was hereditary and he would be just fine-like I was. I spend many years not convinced, but not knowing where else to go. That is when we sent him to a podiatrist who found the problem. There is a little space in our ankle joints that my son did not have. This spot is called the sinus tarsi, and it is responsible for many balance issues. This explained so much, but how did we fix it. By this time, we had to do surgery. Adam had to have implants put into this space to make the proper adjustments. Would we have had to do the surgery if someone had noticed what the real problem was sooner? This is a question that has plagued me as I have had to send my son into the operating room twice.
I first noticed that my daughter had cross eyes when she was very little. She was about 2-3 when I took her to her first eye appointment. I need to make sure that there was not anything seriously wrong with her eye, and needed to know how to fix it. The first eye doctor dilated her eyes, and looked into her retina and said there was nothing wrong. Her eyesight was fine, and I just needed to let her be. There was nothing wrong. I knew I had not imagined her eyes crossing, but for some reason they told me that she was ‘fine’. About six months after the first appointment I took her to another eye doctor who determined that her eyesight was just slightly bad, and she would need glasses but that was it. This doctor did not even dilate her eyes at all, and did she her eyes cross but said that the glasses would help. So one year later, she still had problems. I took her in for her school physical and it was her medical doctor that asked what the last eye doctor had said. She was not blessed; so she referred us to yet another eye doctor. This doctor gave Lizzy a stronger prescription for her glasses and eye drops to put in her eye (she said they do the drops now instead of a patch). In two months we will be going back to the eye doctor to see if the drops have helped. The doctor said it was a 50/50 chance, and if they did not help then my little girl would need surgery to correct the eye muscle. How did it get this bad?
There are many times when we take our children to the doctor office that the doctor thinks they know what is ‘best’. Many doctors just do not seem to listen or take your concerns as a mother seriously. The most important thing to remember is that you know your child the best. Nothing, not even medical science, can go against the miracle that is mother intuition. This article is not meant to be a guide to all medical problems, but more of a heads-up not to quit if you know there is something wrong.