Dating is supposed to be fun. However, if you are new at the game, or even if you are not, but have had limited success with past attempts, here are some basic suggestions to try, and perhaps to make future endeavours more rewarding.
Not everyone has movie star looks, but everyone can make the best out of what the good Lord has given them. It is important to be clean and neat. Bathe and wash your hair the day of the date. Get a haircut. Wear clean clothes. Dress to suit the occasion. If you`re going to a movie, casual is fine. Dinner at a fancy restaurant calls for a little more formality, and an evening at the opera or ballet usually requires formal attire. If in doubt, ask your date. He or she will be glad to enlighten you.
As for extreme styles, try to ascertain whether your date is into tattoos, face metal, spike haircuts, dark eye makeup. or long, flowing, black garments. If not, you may want to modify your usual goth attire for the evening. If in doubt, “Clean and neat” would be your safest choice.
Most people love to talk about themselves. Ask about your date`s favorite hobbies, singer, music, sports interests, job. or pets. Do not question them about past dates or relationships. If they volunteer detailed information, listen politely, but be warned. You may be the topic of conversation for the next person they go out with.
If your date is shy, be prepared to discuss impersonal topics. Be aware of the latest news in the world and in your community, discuss your job, your hobby, or your recent activities. Try to inject a little humor into the conversation; laughter is a great ice-breaker.
* Who pays?
Traditionally, the gentleman pays, but today it’s optional. If the girl invites the fellow out, any costs incurred during the date are rightfully hers. However, to be gentlemanly, her date may offer to take care of any tips or extra, unexpected charges that appear.
It’s quite alright to go “Dutch treat” too, where each person pays their own way. This should be decided upon ahead of time however, so each one brings a sufficient amount of cash.
It’s not necessary to spend a lot of money for dates to be fun. A walk on the beach on a warm summer evening can be a wonderful way to get to know each other. Skating at the community rink, followed by hot chocolate at the coffee shop can be the components of a cheap and memorable evening. Whatever you decide to do, taking pictures will make good memories last longer.
* Saying Goodnight
For the first few dates, physical shows of affection should be kept to a minimum. Either party can be scared off by too aggressive an approach. Trust takes time to build.
The last few minutes should be a time for honesty. It’s time to say, ” I really enjoyed your company this evening and I’d like to see you again”, and listen carefully to the reply.
If you get an evasive answer, ” Well, I’ll call you sometime”, or “When I finish the busy season at work,(or, my sister gets back from Australia, or my dog has her puppies), I’ll let you know”, be thankful for a good time, but don’t hold your breath waiting for the call.
Alternately, if you didn’t really enjoy the date, you might say, ” I really had fun tonight, but I don’t want to commit to a steady relationship just yet. I enjoy meeting different people, and I want to travel, (or finish school, or buy a house, or write a book) before I settle down. Thank you so much for a wonderful evening! Then, leave with a smile.
Most guys and gals date a number of people before they find the one with whom they want to spend a lifetime, and that’s just fine. Dating should be fun, a time for enjoyment, for learning to interact with the opposite sex, and for finding out about yourself. What qualities do you require in a mate? What qualities do you find unacceptable?
Choosing a lifetime partner is serious business, and the accepted process is through dating a number of different people. Learning to date successfully is an important skill to acquire, and it may take some practice, but nothing says you can’t have fun while you’re doing it.