If you have ever suffered a breakup, you know that the healing process can take a great length of time. I recently endured a breakup with my fiancée of almost two years and from experience, the pain is unbearable. Even though we are six hours apart, it is still very tough. It is very important to be strong and go on living your life. Here are a few tips to help your healing process.
1. Keep yourself busy
If you try to keep busy doing different things, then you will be able to keep your mind off your ex. According to hubpages.com, after a person breaks up with somebody they have been with for a period of time, they often experience “withdrawal” symptoms. This causes the mind to trick them into thinking that the past was better than the present, so they make every effort to get back with the person. I try to keep busy by watching television, getting online and going to various sites, hanging out with my parents( might seem lame but it helps!) and also my friends, or playing with my cat.
2. Don’t try to call them
This one, I’ll admit, gives me trouble. I usually call my ex every three days just to talk but it usually ends up with me crying. If you call your ex, it will stir up emotions and feelings and make you miss them even more. I was fine when I was talking to him but then at the end, I said I love you and it made me cry and he didn’t care one bit. If you do call to talk, be sure to give yourself plenty of time to get over them so you won’t end up in a situation that causes more heartbreak.
3. Delete their number and get rid of anything that reminds you of them
Out of sight, out of mind right? That saying is so true, especially when dealing with ex’s. To help you get over your ex even faster, delete their number from your phone. I deleted my ex’s number and it has helped me greatly. Also, if you are like me and memorize their number, do your very best not to try and call them, as stated above. Also, throw away any pictures you have of you two together. If you don’t feel like throwing away pictures yet, put them in a box and put that box up somewhere where you won’t be able to reach it or find it.
4. Remind yourself that you don’t need a guy/girl to make you happy
You were happy before your ex came around, right? You can be happy like you were before you met him/her. It hasn’t even been two weeks since I got dumped and I am already starting to feel happier. This is a time when you need the support of friends and family to help you through the tough times. You will soon find out that you are happy without your significant other and you will soon be glad that you are single.
If you follow these steps and continue to be strong, it will help you in the long run. You may even find somebody else that you are much happier with! Don’t spend your days crying over your ex; try to live your life to the fullest. I have usually heard when you get rejected and you are strong about it, it helps just in case you get rejected again in the future. Not everybody finds “the one” right away, it usually takes a while. Just stay strong and think of yourself first.