Sibling rivalry among teens is a normal occurrence, but there are some actions parents can take to make the teen years smoother for all members of the household. Teen sibling rivalry can be very frustrating for parents, but teen’s hormones and jealousy make sibling rivalry a unique experience to combat with.
– Give teens a chance to work out arguments on their own terms. It is important to give teens an opportunity to talk through their problems. This is good for fostering conversational skills and will also help them work out other problems in the future. Parents who constantly step in to mediate an argument between teens, you are actually reinforcing their behavior by giving them attention. While it is good to allow them to work things out on their own, make sure that rivalry does not come to physical violence. If violence occurs, or if you think there is a chance that it will, it is a good decision to step in and mediate.
– Make sure that you are spending time with your children independently. A great deal of sibling rivalry is based on jealousy, so if parents set aside time to spend with their children individually, they can fight some of this jealousy. It is also important to spend time collectively with the family. This will strengthen the bond between your children and will help to combat sibling rivalry in the future.
– Praise behavior when they are not arguing. It is important to focus on the positive aspects of teenage relationships. Make sure that you reinforce behavior when they are working well together because it will make it more likely for them to engage in that behavior in the future.
– Parents should set an example for their teens. By working well with others, communicating properly, and showing the correct way to work through an argument, parents serve as role models for their teens.
– Don’t encourage excessive competition between siblings. While some competition is a healthy occurrence, encouraging excessive competition between siblings will lead to conflicts between them. Make sure that you recognize your children’s unique capabilities and skills. This will help to make competition between siblings less important because each child feels a level of personal pride.
– Improve communication skills. When teens are able to discuss their problems more effectively with each other, conflicts are smoother and are normally resolved in a shorter period of time.
Coping with sibling rivalry is a frustrating experience, but following these tips will help your children to work through their problems more effectively with their siblings and with others in the future.
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