When you become a parent, one of the hardest things to learn is disciplining children without yelling. Many people think that it is simple and that they can do it no problem, however, when your child is acting out and really wearing on your nerves, yelling comes easier than you think. Learning different disciplining techniques without yelling are not only beneficial to you but to your child as well. Most children do not know how to respond to you when you are angry, while others will often get more upset if you start to yell at them, therefore, they either continue what they are doing or start to act out in anger because they don’t understand. If you feel that this is how your child acts, or even how you act when you get frustrated, then here are a few tips that can help you when you really feel like yelling.
When disciplining children without yelling, most all the books and experts will tell you to send the child to time out. Don’t ask them if they know why they are going or try to add anything more to the conversation such as, ” If you don’t go to your room, you will be sorry when your dad gets home,” just send them there for a time out. Give them three warnings before you send them to time out so that they know that they have been misbehaving. It is unfair to send them to their room just because you are having a bad day. You may feel justified in doing it, but just because your little ones are getting on your nerves is not reason enough to put them someplace that you can’t see them. Giving them a time out will give you and them a break from each other so that you are less likely to start yelling.
Lastly, when you are looking for ways in disciplining children without yelling, consider reasoning with them. This is not meant to be a bribe, and really only works with older children. When they are little, this is called the “little adult syndrome” and it does not work. Talking to your infant, or even children up to the age of five as if they were an adult only confuses them as they often times have no idea what they did that has made you angry not to mention all the words that you are telling them to describe why you are angry with what they did. If your children are a little older, reasoning with them may be easier than disciplining them harshly such as grounding them for a week for leaving their dinner plate on the table. Make sure that the punishment that you are going to give is equal to the crime that was committed.