A couple break refers to couples who spend time apart as they pursue different interests, hobbies or activities. Many would say that couple breaks are essential in a marriage. But do couple breaks really enrich a marriage? Or does time spent pursuing separate interests lead to couples drifting apart?
Benefits of Nurturing Your Own Interests
Pursuing different interests as a couple does not necessarily signify that your marriage is in trouble or that you are drifting apart. If you love to pursue your passion for history by attending historical fairs and re-enacting the Spanish Armada or the Battle of Hastings, but your spouse prefers to swing a golf club with his friends or unwind by spending most Saturdays watching sporting events on TV, this allows each of you to pursue an interest that you both actually enjoy. In addition, nurturing your own interests takes away the pressure some couples place on each other to “provide” happiness.
Independence is Attractive in a Spouse
Some couples have clearly defined roles within their marriage arrangement, which suits them well and contributes to a great measure of happiness and contentment. However, that does not mean to say that couples who are close cannot also be independent by pursuing their own interests. Spouses who cannot even contemplate the possibility of pursuing their own interests, even when they dread going along to another baseball game, are doing themselves and their spouse a disservice.
In contrast, couples who are independent and pursue their own interests will come across as more attractive to their spouse. After all, pursuing your own interests reduces the demands made on your spouse to take part in activities that they have no interest in and when you come together again, you will both feel more refreshed as you discuss the day’s events.
Couple breaks are not necessarily a bad thing in a marriage, provided couples still spend some of their free time together, as there are many benefits to pursuing your own interests. Taking breaks to pursue your own interests removes some of the pressure some couples place on each other to “provide” happiness and entertainment. Moreover, independence is attractive in a spouse who can feel happy and fulfilled without having to rely exclusively on their spouse.