When it comes to double standards the first one most people think of is men being viewed differently than women when it comes to certain types of exploits. In fact, the definition of double standard, according to dictionary.com, is “Any code or set of principles containing different provisions for one group of people than for another, esp. an unwritten code of sexual behavior permitting men more freedom than women.”
However,double standards are not always in favor of the man. How do you tyically judge in these 3 scenarios?
1) A 15-year old boy has sex with a 15-year old girl. Their relationship results in an unplanned pregnancy. How is the boy viewed in this situation? How is the girl viewed? Would you agree/disagree that the pregnancy is typically blamed on the girl alone?
2) A 30-year old woman has sex with a 16-year old boy. A 30-year old man has sex with a 16-year old girl. Would you agree/disagree that the punishment/judgment for the man is much more harsh than that of the woman?
3) A black woman is walking through the mall, arm in arm, with her boyfriend, who is white. A white woman is walking through the mall, arm in arm, with her boyfriend,who is black. Would you agree/disagree that the second couple will receive critical stares, but not much attention will be given to the first couple?
Why is this? While we could probably write an entire book on this topic, the main concern is how these standards are passed on to our children when they hear us saying specific things about one of these scenarios or perhaps some other double standard.
Many of us believe there is not much harm in this way of thinking until we ourselves, or a loved one, is the victim of the double standard. Please comment below to share your thoughts on what you believe it will take to overcome our own double standards, and hold others accountable to the same.
double standard. (n.d.). Dictionary.com Unabridged. Retrieved October 24, 2010, from
Dictionary.com website: http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/double standard