Do you feel like your partner takes advantage of you? Do you ever feel like they are behaving in a devious way, trying to manipulate you? Have you ever used your knowledge of your partner’s vulnerabilities to covertly (in a hidden way) influence them without thinking about their needs? Perhaps you have used guilt, flattery, or some other type of pressure to influence them.
People who use emotional manipulation are emotionally intelligent. When people use their emotional intelligence to take care of themselves at the expensive of others, this is emotional manipulation.
What exactly is emotional intelligence? Are you:
*In touch with your feelings (self aware of your issues and feelings)?
*Able to manage and direct your feelings?
*Able to handle relationships with competence?
Emotionally Intelligent people say yes to the above questions. Emotional intelligence can help you have a successful life. This is good, right? Yes, however if you are in a relationship with someone who is more emotionally intelligent than you, you could be vulnerable to emotional manipulation.
What can you do to prevent emotional manipulation?
STEP ONE: Educate yourself. Then you can spot emotional manipulationwhen it is happening.
STEP TWO: Increase your Emotional Intelligence; take a testto see what your emotional intelligence is today.
STEP THREE: Be aware of your own use of emotional manipulation and learn alternative ways to influence and communicatewith your partner.
At your local Barnes and Nobleyou can buy the following helpful books, Who is Pulling Your Stringsby Dr. Harriet B. Braiker, and In Sheep’s Clothingby Dr. George Simmon. Both will teach you more on this article’s subject.
THE GOOD NEWS IS: Congratulations, now that you have taken the time to read this, you have begun step one, educating yourself.