Christmas is only a few weeks away. People will start making their lists, deciding to get who what for the holidays. Normally, a lame gift can be purchased for a co-worker or a gift for a child’s class-mate, but with a certain group of people, thought should be given before purchasing that electronic carol playing bottle opener that you saw on an infomercial at 3 am. Christmas gifts can sometimes make or break a relationship. They can give the receiver an idea of how the presenter feels about them or what kind of taste, whether good or bad, that they may have.
One of the first bad examples that a mate can give their boyfriend would be deodorant, soap, toothpaste, mouthwash, in other words: toiletries. He may take offense to this, it’s as if you’re suggesting to him that he has a body odor. If this is true, Christmas is the wrong time to bring this up. This is something that should have been mentioned in the beginning of the relationship, not at the most joyous time of the year.
Another bad gift idea is a fruit cake. If you care about this man, why would you do this to his teeth, stomach and blood sugar levels? The fruit cake should not be given to an enemy not less to someone you supposedly like or love. They are considered to be the gift that can be re-gifted for the next 20 years. Use the one that your aunt gave you last year, you know the one the your mother gave to her in 2008), that you still have hiding in the kitchen cabinet to give to that “special” co-worker.
Although you might think that this is a good gift when purchased but getting him a sports subscription or season tickets may back fire, this is especially true if you don’t enjoy sports. You may think that he will teach about the sport while you two are at the event, NOT. You will be ignored, get angry and regret that you ever did that. He will spend more time with the “boys” and less time with you. If you value your “together time”, think carefully prior to getting this one.
Some clothing items i.e. loud colored shirts, sweaters, pants, are bad ideas, unless your man is “metro sexual”. Don’t buy him a purse, cause you saw someone on tv with one. If that is not typically how he dresses, when he pulls one of these gifts out of the box may be the last time you see it, until you ask about it and you may not see it then. Please remember if you are giving intimate clothing items you should give them in your private time during the holidays, not during the family and friends gatherings. Hint: if you are purchasing clothing items, find out his correct sizes to make sure they fit him properly.
Cellphones are on this list only because while you may think that you and he are close still it’s just a bad idea. Everyone deserves their privacy and although you purchased it for him, you cannot control who he can call on it, nor who he can give his number to. If you already do not trust him, why would you give him something that would put a further strain on your relationship? You would believe that just because YOU purchased it, you have the right to answer it, check who called on it and monitor his usage on it, simply put, NO!
You should reconsider giving him cash. Again this is something that you cannot control what he does with it, plus it’s not special. Anyone can give a person money. Plus what does it say about your relationship? Also, work related gifts may be a good thought, but he may not consider this as a gift from the heart.
This should have been first on the list, but the next bad gift idea is illegal drugs. Why in the world would someone do this, but it happens. Most people consider marijuana as being harmless because it comes from nature, but it’s against the law. You both could end up spending New Year’s behind bars, in the hospital or dead. You should not want to be an enabler to his addiction anyway, you need to seek help for him or for the both of you.
The worst gift that you can give your man during the holiday season would be any type of male enhancement remedy, no matter how good you thought your intentions were. His inabilities to perform to your satisfaction should not be a topic during the holiday season. Plus, this is not something that you should decide on your own. Couples should discuss intimacy issues in private and come to a decision together.
The key of good gift giving is to think, research options, snoop to find out what your man may what for Christmas. Never not give him a present, even when he tells you it’s not necessary, he wants something. If YOU wouldn’t use it, wear it or eat, he may not either. You two do have something in common, if not you would not be together. Stop and think, “would I wear and/or use this if I was him? If the answer is NO, reconsider the purchase.