Parents who can’t or won’t control their kids almost always hide behind age-old statements, in an effort to get off the hook. Over the years, I’ve heard these half-baked statements, and I’m sure you have too, that parents make when they’re in denial that they have no control over their kids.
Remember, it’s never the kid’s fault. People call out-of-control or rude kids “brats” and other nasty names, but the way that children behave is directly the result of how their listless parents are raising them. So cut the young ones some slack and instead, blast the feeble-minded parents.
“Kids will be kids.” This is as old as the hills. Funny thing, though, when lame parents use this line, they’re very selective about it. If they truly believe that kids will be kids and therefore, let’s let them get away with doing whatever they please, then why not let them eat whatever they want? Ice cream for dinner, and never any vegetables, for instance? And let them paint their faces and put glue in their hair while you’re at it. After all, kids will be kids!
“You obviously don’t have any kids.” If parents only knew how idiotic this sounds when they use it on someone who has pointed out how disruptive their kids are. The implication is that every person who’s a parent doesn’t believe in teaching their offspring how to behave.
The message with this most-ridiculous defense is that in order to recognize that a child is out of control or behaving badly or inappropriately, the observer absolutely must have children of her own. This is ridiculous! The funny thing is, is that often, this pathetic defense is directed towards people who do, indeed, have children!
“She’s just a free spirit.” Since when does “free spirit” equate to being permitted to dash all about a restaurant like a pinball and shriek and holler, disrupting diners’ eating experience? Funny, these parents would never, in the name of the “free spirit” defense, permit this same little boy or girl to smear mud all over the living room walls at home.
“You know how little boys are.” No, we don’t. How are they? Are they supposed to trample the neighbor’s flower bed? Are they supposed to run up and down the street yelling obscenities that they picked up from Daddy’s foul mouth?
“It’s good to let kids express themselves.” I agree, so buy him or her a water color paint set, child-level musical instrument, coloring books and crayons, and enroll him or her in the creative arts.
But if you think healthy expression means allowing your youngsters to disturb neighborhood peace by screaming all the time while outdoors, then you should have the same sentiment towards adults who wish to crank up their sound systems and force you to hear some heavy metal rock band that you can’t stand. And if a group of drunken adults is making a lot of noise outdoors partying while you’re trying to nap, oh, well, adults should express themselves!
“She has ADHD and OCD and it’s genetic.” Prove it. Do you have results of the genetic test? Which gene is responsible for these behaviors? What’s the name of the gene? Is it a chromosomal deletion? Is it an amino acid missing in the DNA sequence? Cut the person some slack who tells you that your kids are out of control; after all, this person’s brazenness is probably genetic.
“I suppose YOUR kids are perfect?” What’s this have to do with the price of beans in China? If someone points out that your kids shouldn’t be allowed to run like jack rabbits all throughout a store, screaming and hollering, while you’re waiting at the checkout in La-La Land, you are being a totally reckless parent, whether the critic has three perfect angels at home, or three hell raisers who, at that precise moment in time, are starting fires all throughout the neighborhood. Shifting the attention to someone else’s kids in no-way-Jose lessens the fact that yours are acting like savages.
If you know of any other classic things that parents say or excuses they make, that are actually code for “I don’t have the backbone to teach my kids how to behave,” then kindly post them in the comments box below this article.