We Filipinos are enrich with many cultural traditions or this what we call “pamahiin”, especially on a wedding. Though folk beliefs in our country are practiced during the old days, some are still practiced to this modern times. Here are some of the pre-wedding rituals.
Pamamanhikan (Formal Engagement/Meeting of two families)
The pamanhikan is often hosted by the bride’s family as the groom and his folks visit them to formally ask their daughter’s hand in marriage and discuss plans for the upcoming wedding over lunch or dinner. Both of the parents were about to talk and discuss on how the wedding will flow especially on such matters like budget and guest list. In this case soon-to-weds may feel a little awkwardness.
Paninilbihan (Doing household chores for the family)
Paninilbihan is said to be a long-forgotten tradition where the suitor performs some daunting chores for the bride’s family to show his worth, fortitude and responsibility. Tasks like pagsibak ng kahoy (firewood chopping) or pag-igib ng tubig (water fetching) come to mind. But this ritual is still sub-consciously practiced in these modern times, only on a much simpler scale.
The Wedding Gown
Brides shouldn’t try on her wedding dress before the wedding day or the wedding will not push through. Knives and other sharp and pointed objects are said to be a bad choice for wedding gifts for this will lead to a broken marriage.
It is considered bad luck for two siblings to marry on the same year or this what they call Sukob.
There are also beliefs during the wedding. If it rains during the wedding, it means prosperity and happiness for the newlyweds. The groom who sits ahead of his bride during the ceremony will be a henpecked husband.
The groom must arrive before the bride at the church to avoid bad luck.
A flame extinguished on one of the wedding candles means the one on which side has the unlit candle, will die ahead of the other. Throwing rice confetti at the newlyweds will bring them prosperity all their life.
Breaking something during the reception brings good luck to the newlyweds.
Dropping the wedding ring, the veil or the arras during the ceremony spells unhappiness for the couple.
A bride who wears pearls on her wedding will be an unhappy wife experiencing many heartaches and tears.
An unmarried woman who follows the footsteps (literally) of the newlyweds will marry soon.