As I reflect on the decade of parenting that I have undergone, I realize that children are a package full of life’s lessons resting inside their unrelenting hearts and inquisitive minds. With our thinking caps on and our lunch sacks full, we learn life’s lessons together.
My Selfish Days Were Over:
With a bad case of the “I, me, mine” syndrome, I lost touch with living outside of myself. Parenting helped me transcend from selfish to nurturing. As a parent, selfishness is something that cannot be compromised. Children need to see a shining example of a person that can selflessly give. The greatest way to teach a child the virtue of giving is by giving yourself fully to them.
I Learned to Say “No”:
Looking into the bright beautiful eyes of the person you love the most and saying no is nearly impossible. Telling my children no, because it was best for them, helped me to understand how important it is to set boundaries with others. Setting boundaries is a form of love. When you are able to set clear boundaries resentments melt away.
Grief Turned to Joy:
My boys opened my heart in a way I never thought possible. After the tragic death of my mother when I was young, I never thought it would be possible to love fully, commiserate, or empathize with others while a painful cloud of mourning possessed my heart. Motherhood activated a sense of peace with the cycle of life as I prepare my children to be contributing members to a world I will one day leave behind.
Honor for the Inner Child:
Even within the oldest of souls, there is a little child inside that still needs love and nurturing. Having children keeps the aspect of your inner child fresh in your mind and awakened within your spirit. I am able to experience a second childhood with my children, and I still return to being that little eight year old girl that loved to play, skip and sing.
Relationships are as mirrors that reflect who we truly are. With children this is doubly true. Children see and mimic everything that parents try to conceal. My eating habits, language, and personal beliefs changed. In the wake of this change, the poignant lesson learned was that being a parent is a life of integrity, and the legacy we leave future generations is priceless.