As the old saying goes, “Familiarity breeds contempt” and nothing could be more accurate when it comes to relationships. When they fall in love, many women immediately feel as though they should tell their new man everything about themselves. Their past, their ex-lovers, their indiscretions – all with the hope it will bring them closer. It won’t. When it comes to being honest in relationships, there are some things you should never tell a man – even if he asks.
Don’t Talk About Ex-Boyfriends – No matter how much a man asks you to tell him about your ex-boyfriends – don’t. Even though a man will assure you it doesn’t matter what you tell him – it does. He really doesn’t want to know about your ex-boyfriend, where you went, what you did or, god forbid, about your sex life.
What you had with your ex-boyfriend is private and should never be shared with another man. If you do tell him, jealousy will set in, and you’ll find yourself in the future in an argument where your new man is angry over something you told him about an old boyfriend, and that’s not good for anybody.
Don’t Talk About Past Sexual Experiences – Another thing not to tell a man is your own past sexual experiences. No guy wants to know what you did in bed with another guy. It leads to insecurity and jealousy, or even of accusations of being ‘promiscuous’ or a ‘slut’.
If your new man asks about your past sexual experiences, just smile and tell him it’s really none of his business. After all, would you really want to know about his?
Don’t Complain Too Much – Once you begin to feel close to someone, the natural reaction is to become so comfortable with that person you can tell them everything – including how much you hate your job, that your best friend is driving you crazy and, by the way, how many times do I have to tell you to put the toilet seat down after you use it? Don’t.
No matter what they say, no man likes a chronic complainer. It’s fine to complain briefly about something that happened at work, or how bad the traffic was but, if every time you see him you’re complaining for hours about nothing, he’ll soon find some excuse to not be around you as no one likes a constant complainer. No matter how much they love someone.
Size Doesn’t Matter – Honestly, for most women, size doesn’t matter but, if you tell a man that, he immediately thinks he has a small one. Best just not to mention it at all. After all, guys aren’t stupid. They have already compared themselves to other guys, so you’re not fooling them, no matter what you say, and all you’ll do is hurt his feelings.
Don’t Tell Him How Many Kids You Want – So many women, once they get comfortable in a relationship, start talking about getting married and how many kids they want. Nothing will dampen the romantic mood more for your guy than hearing about your future plans – which, as he knows, are all plans that you think include him.
In a relationship unless you’re already engaged, it’s best never to bring up marriage, kids or the station wagon and the dog. If a guy is planning on marrying you, he’ll bring up those topics in his own sweet time. If he doesn’t, no amount of you telling him all your dreams will make him want to share them with you.
When talking to a man, it’s always best to err on the side of caution. You can become closer and more intimate, without telling a guy every gory detail of your life. Honestly, there isn’t a man on the planet that really wants to know.